Laguna Honda Hospital Resident

Laguna Honda Hospital Resident

Wednesday, September 28, 2016



---To find your greatness you have to start by accepting yourself JUST AS YOU ARE. It doesn’t matter if you think you’re the worst person imaginable, with so-called faults, flaws and foibles…you must ACCEPT yourself JUST AS YOU ARE. Even if for now we are just saying that…we can get started.

---We have to unlearn all the negative stuff that interferes with our enjoyment of life and living. Things are set up in a way that if a cut or contusion happens it will eventually heal (if NOT messed with in a way that interferes with the healing.) Our own UNLEARNING comes in the way of STOPPING the things that we do that get in the way of the healing. We have to UNLEARN those things we have LEARNED that interfere with our enjoyment (healing.) With the example of cuts, scrapes, bruises or contusions we have to learn not to repeat or UNLEARN the process that caused the cut (or whatever trauma it might be) in the first place. With ALL that being done…WE HEAL and experience all the joys that go along with it.

---This is the nature of the layer that we live in everyday. It is the same layer that can cover (mask) all the good stuff. The layer is the stuff we are use to. Most things happen here, (the good and bad,) because we relate to things from this angle. The greatness within has been blocked by this layer of ‘normal living,‘ that we do. We are blocked from these wonderful things through our negative response(s) to usual things. Over the years, these wonderful things have been called many things. Some of its’ names have been your Buddha Nature, the Christ Within, the Kingdom Within, taking your own responsibility, Your Beatific Self, the Divine, Krishna consciousness, the Chi, the Viriditas, the God, the Force, the LOVE. It really is a way of seeing things in a more alive manner. Things are not as dull and lifeless, anymore. The sparkle is now there all due to the fact that YOU have changed within.


---We don’t have a direct connection with these things, because we have learned so many ways to keep ourselves removed from THEM. As soon as we’re born, we learn ways to deal with a life that makes these wonderful things the ideal and our usual existence a step down from this realm. Many spend much time in this layer…justifying it, etc., and in the process keep the illusion going. Unfortunately…we DO a pretty good job in keeping ourselves from the good stuff. We have even counterfeited it and call it by names that are really reserved for the good stuff. The REAL GOOD STUFF! Most of what we relate to in our usual life is just a bastardized version of what is really good.


---Being more vulnerable will get you there. Learning NOT to save face will work. Being more honest. Facing your embarrassments will get you there. There are many traps of the EGO that keep one from experiencing how good things can be. There are many naysayers to this approach, but truly if you face just one thing that embarrasses you; EVENTUALLY…probably not right away because old habits tend to be stubborn and stick around, but EVENTUALLY you will see the benefit of seeing and approaching things this way. This will NOT be a quick fix, if that is what you're looking for. When one finds himself in tune with the will see and experience the benefits. How soon it happens will depend on how convinced and committed to its' value one is. But, when one is, it can be a continuous wave that is forever unfolding. Be Well!

This is a draft! Changes may occur.

Sunday, September 25, 2016

Sunday, September 18, 2016

10 WAYs


1. Say Hi and use people's name. Use a nickname if it will work.

2. Ask someone to teach you something.

3. Compliment someone. Even if you don't like someone too much there must be something you can say.

4. Listen and repeat back a little what they say. It shows you are listening. We are quick to give our opinion instead of just listening to what a person may say. Learn NOT to immediately jump in with your opinion. Just listen.

5. Understand what someone says. Put yourself in their position. Learn to really commiserate. People like it when someone 'gets' them.

6. Sometime a smile puts someone more at ease.

7. Remember their spouses name or hobby that they may have. It makes people feel special.

8. Help people if they need it.

9. Greet people like you are really glad to see them.

10. Make an effort to redirect negative energy to positive.

Wednesday, September 14, 2016


---I have been asked to write about the residents/patients for an upcoming history project our CEO is working on. Here is my fourth draft.

The Residents'/Patients'

---My hopes and dreams for the residents' is that their self-worth is realized. I think for some reason many were not encouraged when they should have been and hence are not living the life that is possible for them. Instead of seeing themselves as shining stars they have been living in the shadows never to reach their potential or even to come close. I feel that there is a great need for each resident to be heard and taken seriously, maybe for the first time...for them to begin to enjoy life and living. I, actually, think that this applies to all of us. I think that only then that their lives and hence our lives stand a chance in this ever more dismal landscape that we're seeing. Improve the life of a resident (or anyone in need) today...and really get to know him or her and why he or she has the needs and preferences he or she has. I think that you'll be eternally glad that you did. Remember that it is not up to one individual. it takes a village. We are ALL in this together!  Be Well.

Monday, September 5, 2016


zen habits : breathe
38 Life Lessons I’ve Learned in 38 Years

Today (April 30) I turn 38 years old.


I’ve been on this earth for nearly four decades. Being in a city like Paris, where there are buildings that measure their age by the millennia, helps put that brief blink of the eye into perspective. But still, it amazes me that I’ve been around that long — I feel like I’ve barely begun.

I’m not usually one to make a big deal about my birthday, but as always, it has given me an opportunity to reflect. I thought I’d share a handful of lessons I’ve learned — as a helpful guide for those just starting out.

This post is for my children, whom I miss greatly across the distance of a continent and an ocean. I hope this will shine a dim light on the streets they have to navigate ahead of them, though I know they’ll still stumble as much as I have.

This is for you, Chloe, Justin, Rain, Maia, Seth and Noelle. I apologize for the length.

38 Lessons I’ve Learned in My 38 Years

30. Use the magic of compound interest. Invest early, and it will grow as if by alchemy. Live on little, don’t get into debt, save all you can, and invest it in mutual funds. Watch your money grow.

31. All we are taught in schools, and all we see in the media (news, films, books, magazines, Internet) has a worldview that we’re meant to conform to. Figure out what that worldview is, and question it. Ask if there are alternatives, and investigate. Hint: the corporations exert influence over all of our information sources. Another hint: read Chomsky.

32. Learn the art of empathy. Too often we judge people on too little information. We must try to understand what they do instead, put ourselves in their shoes, start with the assumption that what others do has a good reason if we understand what they’re going through. Life becomes much better if you learn this art.

33. Do less. Most people try to do too much. They fill life with checklists, and try to crank out tasks as if they were widget machines. Throw out the checklists and just figure out what’s important. Stop being a machine and focus on what you love. Do it lovingly.

34. No one knows what they’re doing as parents. We’re all faking it, and hoping we’re getting it right. Some people obsess about the details, and miss out on the fun. I just try not to mess them up too much, to show them they’re loved, to enjoy the moments I can with them, to show them life is fun, and stay out of the way of them becoming the amazing people they’re going to become. That they already are.

35. Love comes in many flavors. I love my children, completely and more than I can ever fully understand. I love them each in a different way, and know that each is perfect in his or her own way.

36. Life is exceedingly brief. You might feel like there’s a huge mass of time ahead of you, but it passes much faster than you think. Your kids grow up so fast you get whiplash. You get gray hairs before you’re done getting your bearings on life. Appreciate every damn moment.

37. Fear will try to stop you. Doubts will try to stop you. You’ll shy away from doing great things, from going on new adventures, from creating something new and putting it out in the world, because of self-doubt and fear. It will happen in the recesses of your mind, where you don’t even know it’s happening. Become aware of these doubts and fears. Shine some light on them. Beat them with a thousand tiny cuts. Do it anyway, because they are wrong.

38. I have a lot left to learn. If I’ve learned anything, it’s that I know almost nothing, and that I’m often wrong about what I think I know. Life has many lessons left to teach me, and I’m looking forward to them all.

Saturday, September 3, 2016