Saturday, April 27, 2019

OPRAH WINFREY TALKs ABOUT LIFE COACHING


OPRAH WINFREY TALKS ABOUT LIFE COACHING


If you've never worked with a professional coach before, you might think their job is to hand you all the answers to your life's problems. In reality, a coach is there to guide you toward your own solutions, and hold you accountable for taking action.
One important way coaches achieve this is by learning how to ask their clients the right questions. These provocative queries may force someone to look at their situation from another perspective, thereby encouraging the breakthrough they need to succeed.
According to 16 Forbes Coaches Council members, here are the most powerful questions they ask their clients.

16 QUESTIONs TO HELP YOUR CLARIFY YOUR NEXT STEP IN LIFE - CLICK

A BEAUTIFUL STORY


WORTHWHILE VIEWING:
This Is NOT An Original Story...I Just Remade It -
ENJOY!

Lucky Dog - Answering the Call of Duty


I did a piece on Brandon McMillan in September, 2017. There is, also, a piece from July, 2017 that contains the interview he gave on ''The Ellen DeGeneres Show.'' He continues to astound me after all this time.

WHAT IS MEANT!


''We ALL Love One Another; We're Just Working Out The Details''


CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---What do I mean when I say this? As a matter of fact I tell folks that this is my personal philosophy. It seems that it isn't as obvious to others as I thought.

---We must break it down a bit, first. We ALL love one another. That in itself seems ludicrous. I can give a list of people that I don't love...or CAN I? Let's go into this slowly. People usually give me a quick list of different world leaders who were the cause of much suffering, death + destruction. How can I possibly love them. They can be outraged at me for even suggesting that.

---I have to break it down a bit further. LOVE is treated as a FACT; NOT a FEELING! LOVE exists whether we feel it or not. Whether anyone feels it or not. LOVE is always present...potentially. To test this, be truly loving and kind in a situation and watch people respond to that. Or, when there is a cut or broken bone and it's allowed to heal after being set properly, it will. Doesn't the way we feel about how folks generally BEHAVE govern how we feel about the people themselves. We'd feel differently if instead of doing things that promote suffering, death and destruction...people fed all the folks that are hungry AND helped people get things they need while footing the bill in most cases. If folks behaved in a way that spread kindness and happiness, we would think very differently about things.  Well, that really is potentially there all-the-time! We just have to act on it.


---Unfortunately, most people BEHAVE in a way that reflects their ATTITUDE and hence, their VALUES - which then tend toward being self-oriented and greedy. People who act this way tend to be fearful of NOT having enough for themselves - hence are self-oriented and greedy. If they were able to see beyond their fears, they would see that having values of being kind to one another and brother + sister helping each other, because we are all in this together...gets more done and hence provides enough for all. Those crying out, ''what about me?'' haven't learned to be team players...yet! BUT, THEY CAN!

---A big problem that I see is this; folks for the most part are waiting to be loved and are not loving. They may think that they are, but self-concern and greed with saving face, runs the show. They are, usually, busy TRYING to get what they think their needs + preferences are, met. But, their method really is, usually self-concern and greed. This is ALL based on FEAR!

PEOPLE TEND TO USE A BACKWARDS APPROACH (THAT DOESN'T WORK):

---Because of this backwards approach (if you will,) folks end up waiting to be loved instead of being loving. And, when they do something loving or kind, they have some type of self-concern tied to it. I see this as being the real problem...but, that is, then, hence its solution.

---We must be TRULY loving for this process to work. If we wait around to be loved, FIRST and are NOT being loving –
 we then have the process backwards. If we wait to feel love first, we just MAY wait forever (a long, long time.) You will wait as long as it takes for you to learn that it works the other way. AND...THAT IS WHAT MOST OF US ARE DOING!


CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---''To FEEL LOVE, YOU MUST BE LOVING.'' The other way doesn't work. It is like waiting to be perfect before you act. It is one thing to get your act together, but waiting to be perfect FIRST will not work. Too many semantics and interpretations to concern yourself with before you can declare that that has indeed happened AND you are now perfect. (Ask your mother, wife or sister to weigh-in on the subject...if you are getting too full of yourself.) Husbands, in general, if smart...won't answer that or just will not truthfully know what you're talking about.

---The second half of that statement - working out the details...comes into play in the fact that many, many have still got it BACKWARDs and COMPLAIN  so much and so loudly and wonder why it doesn't work? Some folks have a lot invested in its being the other (wrong) way AND they belligerently insist that it does indeed work the other (wrong) way...even when they may NOT realize what it is that they are really doing. 



CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---Folks go to war over the fact that they have this backwards...instead of simply realizing that they must love first. Many relationships go sour, because of faulty logic. A lot of time is spent on trying to see eye-to-eye before love is even considered. Then the next thing you know it becomes an eye-for-an-eye! That, once again is CONDITIONAL LOVE and NOT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Instead of being loving...you love only those that see things as you do. The DETAILS are KILLING US in this way.


CLICK THOUGHTOON!


Love has to be treated as a FACT...NOT JUST A FEELING. Act accordingly. 
Be Well.

The saying now changes to:
''We ALL Love One Another; we are simply + gently working out the details''

Friday, April 26, 2019

ARE ALPHA MALEs MORE ATTRACTIVE?


ARE ALPHA MALEs MORE ATTRACTIVE? - (CLICK)

This is NOT a 'YES or NO' QUESTION!

---I was very intrigued by statements made by our friend Nicole Emma in her TEDtalk about males. It is posted below if one wants to listen to it again.

Thursday, April 25, 2019

How to escape education's death valley | Sir Ken Robinson


Here is a TEDtalk that I posted six years ago. I hope that you enjoy the revisit as much as I did.

Sunday, April 21, 2019