Sunday, July 29, 2012
---Brene Brown speaks to many of the things that are lacking in many people that we deal with daily...whether they be on the staff or residents/patients.
---Her use of certain expessions and concepts places a bridge between this website and another of my websites self-esteem and self-acceptance.
Sunday, July 22, 2012
---You may have heard much of this video before...especially those of you who have listened to the ones that I have posted. But, the last 20 minutes are very, very good and new to many of us. I highly recommend that you listen to the last 20 mins., or so if you cannot spend the whole 50 minutes. I really enjoyed this lecture.
Saturday, July 21, 2012
|×||two negatives make a positive:||(-3) × (-2) = 6|
Two Negatives Make a Positive
DEALING WITH LONELINESS
---We a have a old mathematical adage that I’m sure that most of us have heard. It is where two negatives that are multiplied together…form a positive. This works in the field of human behavior, also. (Multiplies is essential. A neg. + a neg. yields a neg. PLUS is an adding together. MULTIPLIED gives the necessary bonding or interacting that yields a positive experience.)
---Examples make things easier to see. If we have negative on one-side say of a ‘’lonely.’’ And We have a negative of a ‘’lonely’’ on the other side…all we really have to do is to combine the two lonely’s together to form a positive of NOT-lonely. (They eventually interact...hopefully. Otherwise we have an addition situation)
---A match will NOT necessarily happen by throwing any two people together…immediately. But, over time…humans have a way of bridging the gap unless the two just can’t relate at all. Eventually, we usually find a softening on both sides.
---All we have written comes into play, here. People and circumstances have a way of revealing us to ourselves. A self-knowledge grows and the lonely’s bond or interact in someway and the negatives placed together, now, becomes a positive. If we find the correct match for each lonely he will grow in self-awareness and self-knowledge and will NO longer be a lonely. It MAY take some work and some time…but, where you once had a lonely we find that he has transformed and vanished from the scene as being a lonely. He has, now, become a positive cog in the wheel-of-life. He, now, feels positive at every turn.
I am not sure that somehow an exact formula can come from this. When one deals with human behavior there may exists unknown variables of all sorts. But, I think that in a general way - you get the gist of it.
ADDING lonely folks together will generally yield a bunch of lonely folks.
MULTIPLYING or INTERACTING lonely folks together generally will yield a bonding result that goes against loneliness.
Wednesday, July 18, 2012
Tuesday, July 17, 2012
.---I spoke and demonstrated my blogs at the Summit...though I am not in the video. Through affiliation with Marie Jobling and the Community Living Campaign we have a few refurbished laptop computers that are available to residents of Laguna Honda Hospital, ONLY. The resident must fit the criteria to qualify. We are trying to establish a connection with the time bank...where one ''buys'' and ''pays'' for a laptop by sharing his/her skill in an area that he is profiscient. Each hour ''served'' brings a resident a unit closer to owning his own computer. There are 24 hours or units of service to buy a laptop at present.
The price we pay for loneliness - CLICK
---The link pertains to our look at loneliness and it being more of a problem than was thought originally. The computer is a great and easy answer to the terrible bouts that many fight with loneliness. Remember that the computer can be your friend or a frightening piece of technology. It really depends on YOU. Get someone to help you make friends with it. It is easier than you might think and well-worth the effort. You may find some kind of answer that is good for you.
Sunday, July 8, 2012
---This is the antidote in case anyone was feeling down from the other. Down and depressed. This talks
about eternal love. A powerful love that just explodes from within. The kind of love that makes me realize that love is understood by the singer. The kind of love that leaves little doubt that Stevie Wonder understood the eternality of love when he was singing the song. This was one of the reasons that I had spent three years with the Jesuits as a candidate for their novitiate...back in the late 70's. I would say that this is one of the best expressions of love that I have ever heard.