A RECIPE FOR HAPPINESS
---We compete + compare ourselves with each other to see how we’re doing. If someone seems to be having a tougher time than we are…we see that as some kind of sign that we are doing okay. When another seems to be doing better we can’t wait to tear him down to size. We don’t seem to live and let live very well. This is NOT a recipe for happiness.
---When was the last time we were TRULY glad over someone’s success? It was probably not that long ago. But, it doesn’t usually take TOO long when we are finding fault with that same individual. We end up resenting any further success he may have. We are all good at being armchair quarterbacks for the rest of us. (This applies to me, also.)
---We ALL seem to be expert on living each other’s life. We praise when it serves our purpose and criticize unmercifully to show off our astuteness, power or whatever.
---I see as a solution to ALL this is to become an ‘’armchair quarterback’’ to ourselves. See ourselves with the same eyes that we use on others. Take our own advice. Take the advice you would give to 5 folks close to you…and turn it on yourself. See your own game through those same critical eyes that you freely share behind the backs of those closest to you.
---Be good to yourself in this process. This may be NEW to you. Honestly…any pain you encounter is short-lived compared to the freedom you eventually experience. It literally is getting that ‘’monkey off your back’’ for good. You will no longer be snarky + sarcastic and NOW work for the common good. You will genuinely be happy at another’s success. You may realize that you have become a team player who actually benefit’s + likes the success of another. You have rejoined the land of the living in some sense. Use it wisely. This is much more a recipe for happiness. Be Well.