Laguna Honda Resident Rights Town Hall

LAGUNA HONDA RESIDENT RIGHTS TOWN HALL

TO THE NURSES of LAGUNA HONDA HOSPITAL...

 

---I would like to dedicate this song by the Beatles to ALL the nurses at Laguna Honda. I know that this song was written by John Lennon about a relationship to a girl he may or may not have been involved with. He may have found it applicable to that situation. But, I think it applies very strongly to myself and many others at any hospital or nursing home, also.

---I was very self-reliant most of my life and was very able to fend for myself. The bad times were the bad times, but I seemed to survive them alright. The stroke hit me in 2002...and I had NO idea what to do. I was immediately plugged into the system and ended up at living in a hospital..

---People have been very good to me here. I love them ALL and I really think I mean that. They have helped me...so many times in so many ways. The song fits in, in so many ways, also. I didn't think too much about what people did who couldn't do the fundamental things that I used to take for granted. Well, I learned, in spades. They get - HELP!
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---The version of the song has expired. I, finally, added a different version in its place.  It is NOT the BEATLES, but i  HOPE that it serves the purpose.

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TEDtalk - FRED LEE - ''Patient Satisfaction or Patient Experience''

FRED LEE

''Patient Satisfaction or Patient Experience''

A MUST SEE!

VERY POIGNANT -

AS I SEE IT!

 

KQED - The FORUM LINK - LAGUNA HONDA HOSPITAL

 LAGUNA HONDA LINK

LAGUNA HONDA HOSPITAL - CRISIS!! 

THIS IS WHAT THE STATE SURVEYORS DON'T SEEM TO KNOW - LONG-TERM PATIENT FOCUS GROUP

The FOCUS GROUP – FEB. 27, 2018.

REPUBLISHED

---Today we had a focus group for the long-term residents. I am glad that we had an opportunity to speak our minds. I would like to see us have more groups like this. I don’t think we even scratched the surface as to what we could have said. In my own case…I would have done better if I had more time.

WHAT I MEANT TO CONVEY:

---A woman mentioned that she enjoyed the groups that she goes to. I followed her statement with the fact that we should actually have more groups to learn different things. My answer was NOT to the point.

---I meant to say that we should have many more groups that convey SELF- KNOWLEDGE and SELF-WORTH. We should have more groups concerned with REAL REHABILITATION as I see it. We should be concerned with teaching the resident/patient how to know him/her-self. Since we are concerned with sending people into the society/community, it behooves us to equip those individuals with REASONs TO SAY NO. We do NOT WANT folks to fall into the same addictive patterns…so he becomes re-addicted. We need to teach those who are on this track to learn GREATER SELF-WORTH so they are able to say NO to things that re-addict them and cause them to re-enter the addiction system ...and mean it. If we get to the root cause before this happens, we may nip in the bud and keep the RESIDENT/PATIENT from having to deal with another malady stemming from the same root cause that was responsible for his/her entering the system this time. The root cause is usually much the same in each case.

Promotes Independence

---Or, it may be very worthwhile to help the patient discover what it is that really  gives him/her fulfillment. Then we could help him/her to actually learn to implement meeting those needs he has discovered. We would be doing a great service NOT only to the patient who learns this skill, but to the people who are his victim, so to speak. If he doesn't find something productive, he'll wander from pillar to post trying to find something to fill all the extra time that he seems to have, all the while, looking for these VERY ANSWERS and cause some kind of ruckus. In the long run, we could teach the Resident/Patient how to get his/her needs met...and NOT rely on the system or others to do things that he is able to do for himself. If we are able to teach folks to be self-reliant, in this way we promote independence. And...to boot, he will be much happier!

 -– With love and understanding and some SELF-KNOWLEDGE, we hope to teach the Resident/Patient how to make better and more LIFE AFFIRMING DECISIONS. MORE LATER…

---This Is What I CONVEYED To The People From The State In April 2021.  I Am NOT Sure What They Took Away. A REPRINT!

CHARTER FOR COMPASSION

The CHARTER FOR COMPASSION

FROM A FEW YEARs AGO

THE KEY TO DOING WELL IN THE SYSTEM!

THE KEY TO DOING WELL IN THE SYSTEM

---The KEY to doing well in the system comes down to knowing this basic fact. Folks who know what their needs are and how to get them met do better than those who are NOT quite aware of their needs and really have no idea as to what to do to get them met.

CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---They may be aware that there is something missing in their life, but they really have no idea what causes this dissatisfaction, but, maybe, sometimes they think they do. They usually find themselves addicted to something that gives a false, pseudo-impression that the feel good solution they are cozying up to is a or the solution...and it is not.

---This KEY is usually provided unknowingly from elsewhere and brings some relief from the feeling of dissatisfaction in the short run, but tends to lose its appeal as time goes on. By this time, we usually find ourselves addicted to this item that provides comfort and find we are as dissatisfied as ever. This KEY resembles the one you are looking for, but leads down a destructive path that many have already taught you is NOT the one. If it doesn't help you to get to know yourself better, you can be sure it won't last. It is just another distraction that you will become addicted to that eventually will ''destroy'' you in the end.

--The KEY, as I see it, comes in this way. Instead of being a pronouncement that TRICKLES TO the resident/patient from some authority figure who sits on high, it TRULY TRICKLES FROM the resident/patient himself when he finally is able to express things that he needs. The resident/patient expresses things inside of himself that reflect things that he needs to lead a fulfilling life of some sort. If you can help identify these things that he expresses AND then help provide some of the things that are needed, we'll see happiness show itself. Realize that they may not yet be on the tip of his tongue.

---This is a very crucial point and place to be and the crossroad that many find themselves. Learning what to do at this point can make or break the resident/patient. This crossroad is where the resident/patient should learn about trial and error to help him to decide what kind of things are of interest and floats his boat. The objective is to Be Happy and Contented and to be sure ALL others are doing well, also. Be Well!

STRESS and QUALITY of LIFE!

STRESS

PTSD

POST TRAUMATIC STRESS DISORDER

THE GOOD NEWS -

IT CAN ALL GET BETTER BY SWAPPING THE NEGLECT and NEGATIVES ONE EXPERIENCES IN LIFE FOR MORE

LIFE AFFIRMING THINGS INSTEAD.

ONE MUST INCREASE HIS/HER ESTEEM and SELF WORTH. ONE GENERALLY OVERHAULS ONES SELF-IMAGE TO SEE HIM/HERSELF IN A BETTER LIGHT.

(BY FACING OURSELVES - FOR EXAMPLE)

HINT: I THINK PEOPLE TEND TO AVOID KNOWING THEMSELVES BECAUSE THEY AREN'T CONVINCED THAT THEY ARE 'GOOD ENOUGH' TO BEGIN WITH. THEY THINK THAT THEY WILL BE WORSE THEN WHEN THEY STARTED. NOW THEY WILL BE MORE CONVINCED HOW 'NOT' GOOD ENOUGH THEY ARE.

ALL I CAN SAY IS THAT THE GOOD STUFF IS IN THERE, BUT, TO QUOTE OUR OWN JOHN MADDEN - ''THE ROAD TO PARADISE GOES THROUGH THE SEWER!''

TO FIND THE REAL YOU, ONE HAS TO GO THROUGH ALL THE NEGATIVES ONE HAS BEEN PUTTING THERE UNKNOWINGLY...UNTIL IT IS UNCOVERED! IT MAY SEEM TO HAVE NO END...AT THE BEGINNING

FEELING UNCOMFORTABLE AT THE OUTSET WILL EVENTUALLY YIELD MANY REWARDS.

STAY WITH THE PROGRAM

CLICK THOUGHTOON!

HANDBOOK to HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS - Ken Keyes, Jr.

The pdf is back

CLICK BELOW

The HANDBOOK To HIGHER CONSCIOUSNESS

---Here is a book that I read years ago. I re-read much of it AND still think it's great. I highly recommend it. As a matter of fact, I challenge you to read the first 11 pages. I would almost wager that you'll want to continue!

CARL JUNG - HOW TO REALIZE YOUR OWN POTENTIAL

VERY INFORMATIVE.

 EASILY SEE WHERE ABRAHAM MASLOW FITS INTO ALL OF THIS.

LAO-TZU, ''Pete'' & ABE MASLOW!

 

PATIENT HAPPINESS + UPDATE!

---According to ALL the literature…it ALL points to one thing, ‘’the happier the resident, the better his physical body responds to getting better.’’ Some doctors are even linking that what is wrong with the patient, can be found to have its roots in the psyche. Clearing up the root cause of the unhappiness usually unblocks the cause for the illness. What is wrong in the thinking can be affecting the body in a negative way and be responsible for the condition it’s in. We see that the way a person thinks has much to do with the way he feels.

---This ALL translates into a ‘’happy patient results in a better recovery.’’ We have on the other-side…a more negative response to life making it more difficult to recover. Misery loves company.

---Thinking positive thoughts and the positive affect they have on the body has been known for a very longtime. Confucius even had a quote along those lines thousands of years ago.

---It is important to tell the truth to yourself. The benefits are well worth it. Sometimes the thoughts that we have are pretty negative. That is why it is good to have someone to talk to…to get things off of our chests. We can have two negative people get together at times and realize that the ‘’bond’’ they have created can be very positive. Two negatives can make a positive - and this works in human behavior, also.

---Keep your thoughts positive and you do yourself a favor. If you listen to your body or other nay sayers you may be dragged into the swamps of how your body feels. Honestly...think good thoughts and of good times and you will be doing yourself a world of good. Take Care.

---I would, also, like to add that this applies to a more rapid turnover at the hospital, itself. If folks are made well, sooner...they are more ready to move on to their next step in life (whatever that may be.) Above published 2/2013.

Patient Happiness (update)
written 4/1/17

---Happiness is still the attitude we hope for a patient. The happier that he or she is plays in a big way in favor of healing. If he or she is very receptive + accepting of the whole getting well process…then the whole hospital stay will undoubtedly go smoother.

---As we have stated in the past it is essential for the patient to feel that he has been heard and has been taken seriously in his life. Though this situation is something that applies to all of us…this has direct ramifications to the under served population. It seems that people are Laguna Honda patients directy depending on how much they have been heard or taken seriously in there life. Through lack of encouragement at proper times or being given the respect deserved and needed by all children there seems a certain amount of folks that appear as lost souls (never having been heard or taken seriously.) They are NOT shown much of anything, but are expected to have the correct answers, anyway. Achievement and accomplishment tends to be low. They spend a lot of time trying not to come across as dysfunctional as they feel sometimes. They find they easily get addicted to or use things to excess that end up being detrimental to there well-being...in the long run. 

CLICK TO ENLARGE

---It, also, has been made clear to me that the benefits of having a GROWTH MINDSET is far and away better than the FIXED MINDSET many of the under served population contend with. One realizes that there is more to life than being a couch potato. There is more going on than just worrying if someone will find out how much you know. You will learn how to learn and, actually, know things. One feels part of things as opposed to feeling excluded from things. One has joined the land of the living again. One has a brand new outlook on life and living.  

Upon rereading this piece in Dec., 20, 2020, I was very much replete in what I conveyed. It seems that children at a young age should be encouraged and should be prepared to realize that it is very okay to express yourself and that it is very alright to make mistakes and not be ridiculed for doing that. Trial + error is the way we learn in this life and if one tries to avoid mistakes at all costs, one realizes that he is not going to learn properly. Here is where most people stop AND never learn how to make mistakes AND that mistakes really our our friends in the learning process. 

Making mistakes and learning from those mistakes is very important in the way an attitude or way of seeing things is developed. If one only learns the most clever ways to avoid things and spends time trying to impress others so as to look good, then his learning is going to be shallow and will definitely suffer. Something that happens here is that we devise ways that gets our peers to approve our avoidance technique. We take on an air of superiority that we convey that we are ''too cool'' to know this AND we show how ''cool'' we are by avoiding knowing this. We get our peers to support our unknowingness because we get a few positives AND head nods that support our NOT knowing this and this all seems the approval actually is better than knowing whatever the piece of knowledge. We have shown ''the man'' that we don't have to learn this. He doesn't control us AND it is none of his business whether we learn this or not. He never learns to figure things on his own and worries about how he appears to the rest of us. He mistakes the bravado that he feels as toughness and brawn over brain will reign supreme for awhile. He doesn't dive very deep to get his answers. Diving deep is for losers and he certainly is not a loser. His concerns are, basically with how he looks to others. 

If one learns to dive more deeply and not worry as to what he may uncover at first, he will soon learn to prioritize and how to discern the relevance of what he uncovers, Trial + error learning will hone down the importance of the things he uncovers. The feeling of accomplishment far and away outweighs where he goes with this...AND he will feel much more authentic in the final outcome.

By intervening properly and at age appropriate times, we are hoping to eradicate the need to be admitted to facilities like this in the first place. What is necessary to be learned will be taught naturally as part of the curriculum and not left out because a few people are still uncomfortable with it. If this is learned early on, it makes things easier all-the-way around. Be Well.

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