The EMOTIONAL LIFE OF YOUR BRAIN

The EMOTIONAL LIFE OF YOUR BRAIN (COMPLETE)

RICHARD DAVIDSON

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You Can't Simply Take Trauma Away | Dr. Nadine Burke Harris | Google Zei...

I, PERSONALLY, THINK THAT WHAT DR. HARRIS IS PROMOTING IS VERY IMPORTANT. I MYSELF CAME UPON THE ACES RECENTLY and FOUND IT TO BE A  MISSING PUZZLE PIECE IN MY OWN RESEARCH.

I FOUND THAT MY OWN RESPONSE TO LIFE, THAT IS SHARED BY OTHERS, IS TO AVOID FACING THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF THAT ARE TOO UNCOMFORTABLE. IT WAS EASIER TO INVOLVE MYSELF IN SOMETHING ELSE. I WAS BORN WITH ONE HAND MISSING FINGERS ON MY LEFT-HAND, BUT TRIED TO PUT IT IN THE OUT OF SIGHT, OUT OF MIND CATEGORY. BUT, UNTIL I FACED THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION, THAT'S WHEN THINGS STARTED HAPPENING.

WE HAVE SPOKEN OF HOW OUR GREATNESS RESIDES WITHIN, THE GOLDEN BUDDHA, REAL SELF, ETC., WE BLOCK THESE THINGS FROM COMING OUT. MANY TIMES PEOPLE ARE EMBARRASSED TO BE VULNERABLE. WE SHOULD BEGIN BY BEING KIND TO EACH OTHER AND NOT LAUGH AT ONE ANOTHER, TO ALLOW THE GREATNESS WITHIN (THAT MAY BE A LITTLE VULNERABLE AT FIRST) TO FEEL WELCOME AS IT APPEARS. POSING THAT YOU'RE STRONG MAY WORK IN THE SHORTRUN, BUT DOESN'T LAST. BEING REAL and AUTHENTIC IS A MUCH, MORE LASTING QUALITY.

BEING YOURSELF, SO-CALLED FAULTS AND ALL, WILL REAP BENEFITS BEYOND YOUR WILDEST DREAMS. TO INCREASE YOUR TOUGHNESS, LEARN TO FACE THOSE THINGS THAT EMBARRASS YOU. MAKING MISTAKES IS HOW WE LEARN. 

LEARN TO ACCEPT ONE ANOTHER and JUST DON'T TOLERATE EACH OTHER. MOST PEOPLE NEED YOUR KINDNESS and NOT YOUR ABILITY TO LAUGH AT THEM. THERE IS NOTHING GREATER THAN TO HAVE SOMEONE BE SUBSTANTIALLY BETTER-OFF, BECAUSE OF SOMETHING YOU'VE DONE.

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ACES OF TRAUMA

 DOWNGRADE THE LEVEL (AFTERMATH) OF THE STORM (TRAUMA) THAT SWEPT THROUGH YOUR CHILDHOOD!

---There exists a tool that helps folks understand why they feel as they do and why they act as they do. This tool consists of answering a set of questions that yields answers that allows trained individuals to predict what diseases they are heading toward based on the different traumas we may have had in our childhood.

What are the 9 ACES - adverse childhood experiences?

In the Minnesota BRFSS survey, respondents were asked if they had experienced any of the following nine types of ACEs: physical abuse, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, mental illness of a household member, problematic drinking or alcoholism of a household member, illegal street or prescription drug use by a household member.

---Some people have had such horrendous things happen to them that a child who experienced such depravity and negativity in their lives has it is compared to PTSD and spending time in combat never knowing any peace always high-strung and anxious ready for the second shoe to drop at any moment. They can be easily triggered and transported to a time when they were actually in a situation where these anxieties were a reality.

---Not everyone experienced this kind of negativity. It is realized that mostly everyone has had something or other that was traumatic in someway. We all have something we'd rather not have been through, but when we come out the other-side we realize that we learned a lot of valuable things in the process. It sort of makes the whole thing worthwhile.

---Acceptance plays a big part in this, but is more a goal of the process and nothing to worry about near the beginning. That is one of those things that we are never sure we've surpassed until that day arises when we realize we are NO LONGER stuck in that cycle.

---Did you ever wonder why some people do better than other people. Did you ever wonder why some folks seem to rise up against all odds and kind of ‘get it’ while others do not. Are you curious to find out what some people are seeing while others don’t seem to have a clue. They have been able to forgive and accept where at other times, seemed impossible. If we watch television at all, we don’t have to go far to be told that the only real limits set on us are the ones that we put there. There is really no one to blame but ourselves!?!? We are holding on to the pain instead of forgiving and allowing the acceptance to come in. Don't Fault Yourselves Because of This. You Might NOT Be Quite Ready...YET! Someday You Will...but, NOT YET! REMEMBER: That's The Goal...NOT The Reality as of YET!

---Are we being lied to for the umpteenth time. Are we being handed another bill of goods that won’t work? We have heard it all before. It just sounds like another bunch of bull. The answer is NO, to that!

---There are ways to escape or at least manage the traumas we experienced in our childhoods. It shows how the kinds of things that happened early in our lives are probably still doing a number on us years or even decades later. Why are we still victims all these years later. What happened happened...whatever that was. Are we still under that spell that fueled the ship many years ago OR are we ready to take a good look at that fuel and make changes to upgrade where necessary? Are we ready to use some of the new technologies to bring us from the dark ages into a light that more and more are seeing and experiencing daily...making REAL CHANGES that last and don’t seem to fade, along the way.

https://michaelgquirke.com/what-are-the-10-aces-of-trauma-how-can-you-begin-to-face-them/

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MANY PLACES TO RESEARCH!

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DR. NADINE BURKE HARRIS: HEALING THE LONG-TERM EFFECTS OF CHILDHOOD ADVE...

FROM THE COMMONWEALTH CLUB

IN SAN FRANCISCO

DR. HARRIS TALKS ABOUT SCREENING FOR ACEs AT A YOUNG AGE. ACEs ARE ADVERSE CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCES and EARLY SCREENING GETS OUR YOUNG PEOPLE INTO THE CORRECT PROGRAM THAT HELP HIM/HER DEAL (AND BE FREE OF THIS.) DEALING WITH THIS AT A YOUNG AGE GIVES THE YOUNG A BETTER START IN LIFE SO THEY MAY GO ON AND LIVE A MORE PRODUCTIVE and FULFILLING LIFE THAT IS FREE OF TRAUMA. DR. HARRIS IS A HUGE ADVOCATE FOR EARLY ACES SCREENING.

EARLY TRAUMA IS SOMETHING THAT WE ALL SEEM TO HAVE. IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH SKIN COLOR. TOXIC STRESS AT A YOUNG AGE HAS HAD A NEGATIVE AFFECT ON VERY MANY PEOPLE. I HAD IT and HAVE IT AS I'M SURE THAT MANY OF YOU DO, ALSO. I HAVE READ DR. HARRIS' BOOK ''DEEPEST WELL'' AND RECOMMEND IT.

I AM SURE THAT SOME AT LHH ARE AWARE OF ACES. I PLAN TO BRING IT UP TO MONICA B.,WHEN I GET THE CHANCE. THE POSSIBILITIES IT PRESENTS SEEM ENDLESS. BE WELL.

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''GET YOUR NEEDS MET...ABE MASLOW''

(7/17/21)

 

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 The HUMAN NEEDs of Which People are DEPRIVED!

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---I don’t think folks realize the importance of being appreciated, being valued, loved, supported, cared for, etc. Folks don’t realize that a life without these key elements is like building a structure or a bridge with shoddy material and/or workmanship that won’t be able to withstand the weight and endurance the structure itself will go through during its’ existence. Eventually, it will come crashing down around itself.

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---If we try to build a HUMAN life with shoddy materials and workmanship (the key elements that we spoke of in the last paragraph,) we, also, will be faced with a being who is shattered before his time unable to withstand the hurdles and pitfalls that come his/her way.

---The recipe of life has a healthy portion of the ingredients of love, support, being valued and being appreciated in it. There is NO scrimping on the materials (ingredients) necessary to create a good solid individual able to withstand all that life throws at him or her. Each time he/she interacts with love, being valued and being appreciated…the foundation ITSELF is strengthened and becomes more solid and stronger than it once was.

---Human needs are love, support, being valued and being appreciated. Self-knowledge, self-worth, self-esteem fit in there somewhere, also. If you treat everyone with KINDNESS all-the-time, then I'm sure that you do your part. BUT...herein lies the big rub - If these needs are not met convincingly, then we are usually faced with an individual who is seeking to get these needs met. He seems almost consumed with these needs. Addiction (and hence Distraction) is NOT lurking too far away. When the HUMAN NEEDs are met, he then is ready to move up along Abraham Maslow's pyramid. Be Kind!.

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Nicole Emma | TEDtalk

GROWING MACHO MEN

---I was listening to a woman speaking on a TEDtalk. She said something I found interesting. The very way that we treat little boys growing up in our society is to ‘’man up, toughen up, don’t be a sissy, real men don’t cry, etc.’’ We teach them that it is NOT alright for a male to cry…to have feelings, to NOT be tough or to make mistakes. If the feeling to cry comes to him, to be a man, he must learn to suppress that feeling and sublimate the feeling into a not crying situation. She said that this statement, this dynamic, is directly responsible for the violence that we are facing in our communities.

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---I am very interested in what she is saying. It supports much of what we have been talking about. There was a saying that she used that I never heard before. She heard a former NFL player use this expression. ‘’Boys who can't cry, shoot bullets.’’

---We certainly can see that one can’t get his needs met if he keeps them so hidden. We have to get our music out while it is still music.

1.     People need connection with one another.

2.     We are all designed to find our tribe.

3.     We all need one person who sees who we are…and loves us UNCONDITIONALLY.

4.  Some men believe their manhood or value is in their muscles, money or mojo.

5.     Some men wear a mask (not themselves) to protect themselves from shaming or criticism usually from other men. The mask talked about here is the psychological mask people use to hide behind. This was originally written well before Covid-19 was on the scene.

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---Please listen to video yourself BELOW. She makes a lot of sense.

NICOLE EMMA