HOW CHILDHOOD TRAUMA CAN NEGATIVELY AFFECT WHO YOU ARE - DR. NADINE BURKE HARRIS (GREAT TALK!)

 

THIS TEDtalk GOES TO THE HEART OF WHAT WE HAVE BEEN SAYING FOR A LONG TIME. Dr. NADINE BURKE HARRIS HAS PROBABLY DEALT WTH FOLKS WHO HAVE BEEN AT LAGUNA HONDA FOR A TIME. THIS TALK HAS COME AT A VERY POIGNANT TIME IN OUR OWN LHH LIFE AND ADDs MUCH TO OUR ARSENAL OF IMPORTANT TALKING POINTS TO SEE HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO SEE OURSELVES IN A CLEAR LIGHT. TRULY, I WOULD LIKE TO MEET DR. HARRIS SOMETIME.

ENHANCES MUCH THE SAME POINTS IN ITS' OWN WAY. IN A BARE-BONES WAY...I'M SURE WILL HIT A NERVE and ADD CLARITY TO EVERYTHING.

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FROM MY OWN DEALING WITH FIGHT or FLIGHT. I'VE SEEN HOW CONNECTED THE FIGHT RESPONSE and HOW IT CAN BE THE SAME AS STANDING UP AND FACING THE TIGER (WHO HAPPENS TO BE YOURSELF.) FACING OURSELVES SEEMS TO BE THE CULPRIT IN ALL OF THIS. I ALSO AM AWARE THAT THERE IS A LEARNING CURVE TO DO THIS AFFECTIVELY.

FACING YOURSELVES/OURSELVES and BEING ABLE TO STAND YOUR GROUND and BE WHO YOU ARE DESPITE WHAT YOU HEAR...CAN STOP YOU FROM FLIGHT INTO SOMETHING THAT ONLY DISTRACTS YOU FROM FACING YOURSELF and TO BECOME ADDICTED TO WHATEVER IT MAY BE THAT BRINGS A SHORT-TERM RELIEF, AT BEST. THAT IN REALITY JUST ASSISTS YOU IN AVOIDING WHO YOU REALLY ARE.

REMEMBER: THAT IT IS ALL WITHIN. FIND THE MOVIE ''THE END'' ON THIS BLOG. IT SHOULD BE CLEAR IN THE FIRST 3 MINUTES AND 40 SECONDS OF THE MOVIE. IT IS ABOUT FINDING OURSELVES!

The Wisdom of Trauma, Official Trailer

THIS VIDEO/TRAILER IS MUCH THE SAME AS WE HAVE BEEN TALKING ABOUT. DR. MATE SEES THAT WE GET OVER OUR TRAUMA WHEN WE FACE OURSELVES. PEOPLE ARE TAUGHT NOT TO DO THAT. THEY SPEND MUCH TIME NOT DOING THAT. BUT, WHEN WE FINALLY DO, WE SEE WHAT A DIFFERENCE IT MAKES TO THE QUALITY OF LIFE THAT WE LIVE. WE FINALLY CAN SEE ALL THE GOOD THAT IS INSIDE. WE HAVE FINALLY DISCOVERED OUR REAL SELF THAT IS WITHIN.

IT IS THE SAME THING THAT WE DISCOVER IN THE VIDEO ''THE END'' (on this blog) IN THE FIRST 3 MINS AND 40 SECONDS. IT IS CALLED ''The GOLDEN BUDDHA'' IN THAT VIDEO. IT IS OUR AUTHENTIC SELF. OUR REAL SELF. IT IS NOT IMPORTANT WHAT WE CALL IT AS IT IS TO REALLY UNDERSTAND WHAT IT IS. IT IS WHAT WE HAVE BEEN SEARCHING FOR ALL OUR LIVES. OURSELVES!

THE INABILITY TO FACE OURSELVES IS THE SOURCE OF ALL ADDICTION.

WHEN YOU LEARN HOW TO REALLY FACE YOURSELVES, ALL THE NEGATIVES CHANGE TO POSITIVES

ARE YOU CREATING YOUR OWN SUFFERING?

 

YOU HAVE SEEN HER BEFORE. SHE TALKS OF CLEAN PAIN and DIRTY PAIN IN THIS VIDEO. SHE SPEAKS OF SEEING THINGS REALISTICALLY and HOW TO GET MORE AT THE ROOT-CAUSE OF WHAT IS WRONG HERE.

DISCLAIMER: I'VE NOTICED HER VIDEOS CONTAIN A SHORT ONE MINUTE PLUG TO WHO IS SPONSORING THIS VIDEO. I THINK HER CONTENT FAR OUT WEIGHS THIS BIT OF BUSINESS. IT IS SHORT and EASY TO ENDURE. IT IS WORTH PLOWING THRU THIS. ENOUGH SAID.

A VERY PRACTICAL VIDEO.  WE MAY SEE HER MORE OFTEN.

What If We Made NO EXCUSES? - Zara Zaman

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A SKIT

Two Talks by Dr. Jordan Peterson (Clinical Psychologist)

WHY PEOPLE ARE MENTALLY ILL?

12 RULES TO LEARN IN 12 MINUTES

GIVE THESE A LISTEN. THEY ARE FILLED WITH A  CHALLENGING WAY OF LOOKING AT THINGS. BE OPEN MINDED WHEN YOU LISTEN. HE MAKES SENSE WHEN YOU HEAR HIM OUT. DON'T JUDGE TOO QUICKLY. IF YOU FIND YOURSELF DOING THAT...LISTEN ANYWAY!

Why Trauma From Childhood CAUSES LONELINESS

I'm Sure That Some Will Easily Relate To The 10 mins VIDEO!

I Firmly Believe That We Can ALL Change For The Better. Even If You Feel Like The Exception To The Rule...You Are NOT!

You May Have NOT Found It YET, But It Is There. Maybe, It Is NOT In Your Playbook, Yet. Quiet The Mind and Be Attentive To What Comes Up. Don't Be Afraid Of Yourself, That Usually Helps A Lot. If It Is Negative At First. Realize That Is Just Residue From Your Past. The GOOD STUFF Is In There, The Positive Stuff Is In There...You Just Keep It Hidden Very Well. Unfortunately, There Are NO Rewards For That. 

You Will Find It. Learn To Be GOOD TO YOURSELF.

Getting Free Of Self-Importance Is The Key To Happiness: Polly Young-Eis...

EASY TO LISTEN TO...and UNDERSTAND. GOOD EXPLANATIONS of SHAME, GUILT, ENVY and JEALOUSY!

8 Toxic Things Parents Say To their Children

ANYTHING THAT GET'S IN THE WAY OF US BEING WHO WE ARE IS NOT NECESSARY. MANY, MANY PEOPLE HAVE A VERY TOXIC CHILDHOOD. I BELIEVE THAT THE ROOT-CAUSE OF ALL OF THE PROBLEMS THAT EXIST NOW CAN BE TRACKED BACK TO MANY OF US HAVING SUCH A BAD TIME DURING OUR EARLY YEARS. I BELIEVE THAT GROWING and DEVELOPING WITH LOVING and KIND VALUES MAKES A HUGE DIFFERENCE IN THE QUALITY OF THE LIFE ONE LIVES. 

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FROM HERE ON IN...BE LOVING AND KIND.

IT'S ALL INSIDE!

FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT -

IF YOU WANT SOME TIME TO MULL THIS OVER. EVENTUALLY, YOU WILL SEE HOW WELL WORTH IT THIS IS!

Lessons from Nursing to the World | Kathleen Bartholomew | TEDxSanJuanIs...

SHE TEACHES THAT EVERY MEMBER of THE TEAM BE AWARE THAT HIS/HER JOB IS IMPORTANT!

POSITIVE COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY!

Eden Alternative - Dr. Bill Thomas

EDEN ALTERNATIVE

DR. BILL THOMAS

EDEN ALTERNATIVE I

WEDNESDAY

• BRAINSTORM: Nothing is framed wrong. One is just looking for the next BEST answer.

• When taking picture, noticed that best light comes from within…when person is first acknowledged.

• Residents/Staff can be ‘’diamonds in the rough.’’

• Loneliness, helplessness and boredom are three moods NOT fixable w/medication.

• Care Partner is a better term than Caregiver.

THURSDAY

• There is NO ramp for dementia (POIGNANT)

• We have let meds be our master. If we get our foot caught in a bear trap we would probably give a Tylenol or stronger for the pain...instead of taking off the trap. (POIGNANT)

FRIDAY

• Be The Change That You See

• Staff Is Kept Happy With Positive Feedback – Not By Being Told Don’t...Constantly.

• EDEN PHILOSOPHY IS NOT A PLACE - IT'S A MINDSET

• Listen and Hear the Resident. You May Actually Want To Hear Some of What He/She Has To Say.

Antidotes

• Loneliness – Loving Companionship

• Boredom – Do things you enjoy and access to children, plants and animals

• Helplessness – Do something for another

LAGUNA HONDA had people from the EDEN ALTERNATIVE come and speak to us and present to the staff/residents at LHH. Here are my notes from the three day event.