Monday, December 28, 2020

MAKING AN IMPATIENT PATIENT - PATIENT!

 MEETING or NOT MEETING NEEDS!



 
Make an impatient patient...patient! 
MEET NEEDS!

Make a patient patient...impatient! 
DON’T MEET NEEDS!

Keep a patient patient...patient!
MEET NEEDS!

Keep an impatient patient...impatient! 
DON’T MEET NEEDS!


If you don't already know how to get desired results, it has to do with MEETING or NOT MEETING his/her NEEDs. Check to see the results. You'll find your answer very soon. The more wisely the positive reinforcements are used is reflected in the more satisfied experience the patient is having!



The more wisely + regularly the patient's needs are met, the more the patient's patience will rise. The patient just acts better because the patient psychologically feels better.

ACT ACCORDINGLY!


STAFF, VOLUNTEERS and PATIENTS -
WE ALL HAVE THEM!

Saturday, December 19, 2020

Friday, December 11, 2020

MISTAKES: A CLOSER LOOK AT TRIAL & ERROR!


Very Straightforward Way To Learn How To Learn. A Step by Step, Easy To Follow Method That Shows Us Why We Make Learning Much Harder Than It Has To Be.


Wednesday, December 9, 2020

BRENE BROWN - The POWER of VULNERABILITY


BRENE BROWN
The POWER of VULNERABILITY


CLICK THOUGHTOON GIF!



 

Tuesday, December 8, 2020

SPARK of LIFE - Dementia


---It is said that the memories are still there...it is just that the patient/resident has lost his/her ability to retrieve them. They would need assistance in obtaining that skill again. In the video, we see what can happen when a person becomes re-connected. This video was shown at the EDEN ALTERNATIVE training many of us went to in 2012. Laguna Honda held a three day training put on by the people from Eden Alternative. The above video is one that they had shown.

---I was the only resident invited to the three-day event. I was very glad that we were doing this as I really thought that we hit upon something very real that we, the whole LHH community made up of staff and residents, would hold onto for awhile. So many staffers at the time came away with a new heart and a vow-like mindset that they realized that Laguna Honda maybe didn't have as many lost causes as they have previously thought. Perhaps, many of the residents just have to be reawakened to once, again, participate in life.

---The video spells out pretty clearly that with the proper stimulus...this may happen. It reminds me of the song, ''Hello, Is There Anybody In There?'' You are like a detective trying to find the spark that still exists inside, somewhere. ''The game is afoot,'' as Sherlock Holmes was known for saying. That may be the new frontier that STAR TREK was searching for. To boldly go where someone hasn't gone in a real, long time. There are many possibilities. Be Well!

Saturday, December 5, 2020

5 STAGES of ACCEPTANCE - APPLIED to MYSELF!

The ''LEFT-HAND'' Situation


---To state more clearly and to answer why this particular essay is so
important in my own life and why I think it is important to ALL of us. It is an example in my own experience of how one goes from the ''darkness'' into the ''light.'' Well placed Affirmation along the way gave me what I needed to continue. I know that this will work in your life, too!

---I was born with my left-hand missing four fingers. REMEMBER: my missing fingers represent whatever it may be that you, yourself, has yet to accept. Believe me, through much experience, I'll tell you that we are much in the same boat in this! The stages I went through toward Acceptance are very much the same as Kubler-Ross' stages of accepting situations in our lives. She, herself, came upon these as she was looking into how we ''grieve.''
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---FIVE STAGES---
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DENIAL - Keeping my hand in my pocket and not letting others or anyone see or experience the real me. It seemed easier, but I wasn't being honest with myself and that is very important.

ANGER - Came about in the form that I should be able to show my hand, but I just couldn't.

BARGAINING - ''If God will grow my fingers than...'' I became a bit irrational at times because it would keep me from having to face the reality of having the missing fingers. This stage taught me much as I could see that I had some growing and learning to do. My ideas of ''God'' greatly matured here.

DESPAIR - I realized that there was NOTHING I could do to change my situation-except Change My Attitude. Growth was happening, Acceptance was taking place, but I felt very helpless. I needed to - TRUST that it was OKAY to be me. I had to let go of the way I thought it was supposed to be, and actually get on with things. It was one of the most painful situations I ever had to face, but it carried great rewards with it. I was closer to being the person I was born to be. It was in this time - frame of my life that I became a serious candidate for joining the Jesuit Priesthood. This was in the late 1970's.
---A word to the wise in all of this. It is a PROCESS and one will HAVE to allow some time to embody what is going on with oneself. Take it slow and don't try to force anything. It is a natural growth process so all we have to do is just be honest with ourselves each step of the journey we are on. We will grow into whatever we are to gain from all this. Be good to yourself and remember...the simpler the better.

ACCEPTANCE - Gradually you find yourself NOT hiding your hand, or whatever it might be, in your ''pocket'' or anywhere else for that matter. In fact, your attitude can turn so much that you forget that at one time it was even an issue. It is the process where suddenly you can see that which you thought to be a ''Curse,'' is really a ''Blessing.'' Be Well.

Most of this was written in 2005 or so!
(Picture By Lauren S.)

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SELF-ACCEPTANCE plus - VIDEO (TIES IN TO ABOVE POSTING!)



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My Latest Video Slideshow w/Music
Published 6/23/20

Monday, November 30, 2020

VICTORIA SWEET MD - My Former Doctor at LHH



''SLOW MEDICINE: A WAY To HEALING''



''GOD's HOTEL''

Terry Becker AND Planet Earth:
The SIMILARITY


---We must now realize that Terry Becker (the name Dr. Sweet used for one of her patients in ''God's Hotel'') is much the same as Planet earth. BUT…why do we say this? We must realize that the same SLOW MEDICINE that healed Terry Becker will also work on healing Planet Earth. The only ‘’job’’ that we have in the process is…to ALLOW it to happen. We must put Planet Earth in the same condition of WELLNESS as Dr. Sweet placed Terry Becker and watch. Remember: a cut or a wound will heal if we let it.




---We have heard it put very eloquently by Dr. Victoria Sweet. The near fatal bedsore of Terry Becker was healed when NOT interfered with by anyone/anything. It took some time, but in an increasing manner the sore of Terry Becker healed.


---Terry has MUCH in common with our own - Planet Earth. It is also in need of a healing. And…the viriditas, the life-force, the god-force, etc., and so on…is right there ready, willing and able to do the same job that it did on Terry Becker - if we let it (and DON’T INTERFERE.)

---If we apply this SLOW MEDICINE to Planet Earth AND allow it to do it’s thing…a healing will take place. Once again…we have to let it. We must exercise patience and re-learn many things that promotes this condition. It can be seen as delicate as a pregnant woman giving birth to a ‘’newly-healed-self.’’ The recipe is right there…we just have to eliminate what does NOT promote healing. Take Care.

ARTICLE ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED: OCTOBER 10, 2013

Thursday, November 26, 2020

HOW I FIGURE IT!

 


HOW I FIGURE IT!



---We know how it all works. I mean I think many of us figured it out. I wondered why I haven’t seen the schematic around. Maybe it isn’t as out there as I thought it was. 


---To me it begins with a solid foundation. If one was appreciated, valued, was taken seriously, and really listened to (not made to look foolish when he may naively ask a question someone thought to be mundane and revealed how much he didn’t know.) This can be a real problem and do much damage to a young mind just by someone indicating, ‘’boy, was that a stupid question.’’ His outlet for his curiosity could easily be stymied by some off-handed, mindless remark that succeeds only to thwart the child from asking future questions that help in his evolving a more definitive answer usually because someone wanted to show-off how SMART he, himself, is. There are REALLY NO dumb questions, as they say! Only comments to questions that are completely unnecessary.



---When a child develops properly and gets his emotional needs met along with a  good, solid foundation of food, clothing and shelter, he learns he is appreciated, valued and worthwhile. From all of this, he learns to be generous and freely share as he realizes life works better when we do this. We learn how to be a give and take player on the wheel that upgrades civilization as we go. This keeps improving where we find ourselves actually going from selfish to selfless as we age. We learn we don’t have to compete and compare. We feel very, very connected with ourselves, each other AND with life itself.


---Here is where we can make a good case for DEPRIVED and DEPRAVED. He who is deprived of his needs being met will most likely act depraved in some way. His negativity, DEPRAVITY, no matter to what degree can be traced, as a rule, to how DEPRIVED the person has been in his lifetime.


---The fundamentals of life can be as easy as getting one’s needs met and can set a person on a course of fun and enjoyment. One should identify what his real needs are and set a plan in motion to get them met. The difference between someone living his life getting his needs met and someone who tries to live his life with his needs unmet...is like day and night. If one doesn’t get his fundamental needs met...then he usually spends the rest of his life and time trying to get those very same needs met. Doing the things that one enjoys doing so far outweighs doing things you don’t want to do. It can make or break a lifetime. Many people can attest to this as a fact because they, basically, are doing something they are NOT fond of doing. When one is doing what he likes doing, it is a night/day different thing compared to doing what you don’t like to do.


---When these fundamental needs are met we have a person with a good, solid self-image that can develop healthfully from there. When one veers from that course he starts catastrophizing and the negatives begin to oppose any natural growth. This is where the heartaches begin. This is where we will find life begins to unravel. Be Well!

Monday, November 23, 2020

BJ MILLER - TedTALK!


BJ MILLER WAS ONCE THE HEAD OF THE ZEN HOSPICE PROJECT AT LAGUNA HONDA HOSPITAL!

Sunday, November 22, 2020

The Most Powerful Way to Reprogram Your Subconscious Mind To Get What Yo...


GIVE THIS VIDEO A LISTEN!
LETTING YOUR MIND BE A MIND,
IT's ONLY ABOUT 12 mins.

Friday, November 20, 2020

Saturday, November 14, 2020

Tortoise helps friend who's flipped over


This Video Was Sent to me a few years ago by the late Elizabeth Cutler!

FOR THOSE WHO HAVE YET TO SEE THIS!

Tuesday, November 10, 2020

RETURN TO - DEPRIVED and DEPRAVED! NEW


RETURN TO
DEPRIVED and/or DEPRAVED
A LESSON FOR US ALL!




---Some folks have asked me to return to the ‘’WEST SIDE STORY’’ analogy. They feel that there is more to be said. The point to it all is the idea that for those DEPRIVED of love, support, being appreciated and valued…usually, end up living a life of DEPRAVITY. We, also, tried to define DEPRAVITY as acting negative in any sense at all, as it leads down the negative path. Those DEPRIVED of their basic human needs of love, support, being appreciated and/or valued being met, tend to lead a life full of negativity. The RIGHT TOOL is DON'T DEPRIVE PEOPLE of their HUMAN NEEDs BEING MET! It works much, much better for everyone...INCLUDING YOURSELF, when NEEDs are met!


---It reminds me of my dad in the 1960's and 70's, warning about never trying to run the car on cheap gas. He said it will ping and eventually ruin the engine. Well, to save money, you use cheap gasoline. Lo and behold…he was right. You learn this lesson when the car is on the lift and the mechanic asks you if you have been using cheap gas? You have been caught with your hand in the cookie jar.




---ADDICTION works like this. We put the wrong items in the place that can only be filled by authentic things like love, being appreciated, etc. We run the engine on cheap gasoline that will eventually break down. We, also, find that it is NOT so easy to make the switch to a different budget. We are used to running our life with the extra money we were getting by buying the cheap gas. We have to now make ends meet on less money. We relied on cheap gas for so long. Now…it physically hurts the car to use it. The fact that it isn’t really the correct thing to use has revealed itself. The real need rears its’ head as it always does and you have found this out while using the cheap gas. At first it sort of worked, but NO MORE. It needs REAL GAS...NOT CHEAP GAS...to be satisfied. That area has been DEPRIVED for years. DEPRAVED actions (negativity) are the norm at this point. If the needs had been met right away, the path chosen for the life of the engine would have based on having the needs being met instead of the DEPRAVITY (negativity) based of that area never being properly dealt with.




---The quickest and the best way to get your needs met is to be honest with what you are doing. Using the wrong gasoline will always betray you eventually. To feel love, be loving. Be honest. Be proactive. Don’t just sit and complain how nobody cares about you. Spring for better gasoline as it will actually be the best buy in the long run. Be Honest and Be Well.



Friday, November 6, 2020

Finding your Element by Ken Robinson / How to find your passion / Discov...



If you scroll down or go to YouTube, you find many videos by Sir Ken Robinson. He is very entertaining and informative. Good luck on your journey.

The ''HAMMER LECTURES'' contained in this blog is very good. Or you can probably find this book online. I highly recommend it!

The HAMMER LECTURES - Whole Thing!



REVIEW - ''FINDING YOUR ELEMENT''

.---You are still seeing what is really needed at LHH...to make the hospital a place of excellence. I believe that rehabilitating folks has much to do with folks reaching their full potential. I realize that doing this isn't totally our responsibility, but it falls on us in the fact that each must pull his own weight and do his part. I feel that if we do just one extra thing each day to improve the esteem of one person from whatever method we decide upon, people would improve. We must not lose our stamina and continue this despite maybe losing faith at times. We must learn to truly appreciate what we have and NOT be so concerned about missing out on something or other. It is a great opportunity if you wish to take it.

Friday, October 30, 2020

DR. VICTORIA SWEET LEARNS A LESSON

 


A LESSON FOR
DR. VICTORIA SWEET
and US ALL


---I'd like to speak about something that Dr. Sweet mentions in her book, ''God's Hotel.'' On page 29 in one of the versions of the book she speaks of talking to a Miss Tod. Miss Tod had brain cancer that was still growing behind her right eye. The eye had been removed and her eyelid was sewn shut. Dr. Sweet mentions that she was hard to look at.


---Having gotten used to the physical appearance of Miss Tod, and after exchanging pleasantries...Dr. Sweet looked at Miss Tod and asked if there was anything that she could do for her?

She expected euthanasia, some sort of miracle cure, stronger pain medication or even a second opinion. With all the poise and equanimity Miss Tod asked if there was something Dr. Sweet could do about her food being so bland and a pair of eyeglasses. Dr. Sweet mentions being floored by the response. She helped her with those things. Miss Tod changed wards and lived another 18 months.

WHAT DR. SWEET LEARNED THAT DAY:

---What Dr. Sweet learned that day was priceless from my perspective. From Miss Tod's attitude she learned that ''somehow she accepted her fate, and it was the small things, the little daily things, that were important to her.'' Dr. Sweet goes on to speak of bravery at the core.

IMPORTANT POINT:

--She then mentioned something that floored me. Admitting that many young doctors are very healthy, curious, hardworking, etc. What do they know of misfortune? (A VERY IMPORTANT POINT. DEPICTS A DUALITY THAT EXISTS VERY OFTEN.) And, even when there is no cancer to deal with, the patient still has his needs and preferences. Reread the section about Miss Tod if you've forgotten the story. As I said it's page 29 in my book and lasts about two pages. It is a good lesson for all of us. Be Well.


Dr. Victoria Sweet worked at Laguna Honda Hospital (God's Hotel) for 20 years before she wrote her book ''God's Hotel.'' It is about our old Laguna Honda Hospital.

She was my doctor for the last two years before she wrote the book. She was a fine doctor and a very nice person. And, she is a very good writer. Her books are highly recommended by me and she has won many awards because of them. Pick-up a copy and you will do yourselves a favor. We had a wonderful time together.

Friday, October 16, 2020

To The NURSES and EVERYONE at Laguna Honda

  


---I would like to dedicate this song by the Beatles to ALL the nurses at Laguna Honda. I know that this song was written by John Lennon about a relationship to a girl he may or may not have been involved with. He may have found it applicable to that situation. But, I think it applies very strongly to myself and many others at Laguna Honda, also.

---I was very self-reliant most of my life and was very able to fend for myself. The bad times were the bad times, but I seemed to survive them alright. The stroke hit me in 2002...and I had NO idea what to do. I was immediately plugged into the system and ended up at Laguna Honda.

---People have been very good to me here. I love them ALL and I really think I mean that. They have helped me...so many times in so many ways. The song fits in, in so many ways, also. I didn't think too much about what people did who couldn't do the fundamental things that I used to take for granted. Well, I learned, in spades. They get - HELP!
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---The version of the song has expired. I, finally, added a different version in its place.  It is NOT the BEATLES, but I HOPE that it serves the purpose.

Friday, October 9, 2020

Wednesday, October 7, 2020

JOY of ACCOMPLISHMENT!


CLICK CLIP!

 

SMART goals - a work in progress


The RESIDENT COUNCIL HAD PLANNED TO TALK MORE ABOUT SMART GOALs!

Saturday, October 3, 2020

How to Develop a Growth Mindset

FEAR and The POWER of YET - A POEM

A Growth Mindset


 When I Was Young I Was Told
To Stay Out-of-the-Street
A Car May Hit You
So Be Safe

As I Got Older
My Intelligence Grew
I Was Allowed To
Cross At The Light

Intelligence Gave Me
The Ability To
Negotiate The Situation

I Feared The Traffic
Until I Was Able
To Understand It
Many Things In My Life
Had That Dynamic

Fear Until I Understood It!
Mountains Go Back To Molehills
Once Again, The
Playing Field Is Level

To Me, Fear Is Just NOT
Understanding Things...YET!

Thursday, October 1, 2020

MORE COMPREHENSIVE REHABILITATION


REAL REHABILITATION

---To rehabilitate properly, I feel, is to be sure that folks have changed inside AND are now able to face themselves. That is to face oneself without using their addiction of choice BECAUSE that only serves to distract folks from facing what is really at the heart of the problem. They come into a healing setting and usually have the current malady taken care of. This is really just treatment of the symptom and are sent out to once again be victimized by what they cultivated a weakness for and sent them to the hospital in the first place. If one never gets to the-heart-of-the-matter…it honestly doesn’t amount to much, more than putting a bandage on cancer. It has to do with a lack of self-worth and self-esteem making folks so vulnerable to whatever takes the place of getting to know thyself. Getting to know thyself can be painful if you’ve spent a lot of time hurting others. For folks who basically have followed the Golden Rule, facing things are NOT as bad as that.

INCREASE SELF-WORTH

---It seems that many folks have NOT experienced much encouragement in their lives. It, actually, seems that many have been discouraged to achieve. They have been told that achievement is out-of-reach and not worth the effort involved. Besides, they don’t have what it takes. Mediocrity may be worth getting used to.

---We find that there is a need to increase self-esteem. We find, also, a need to increase self-knowledge. Positive interaction with others makes this happen. Folks who find that they are low in both departments need good solid people in which to interact. The objective of this interaction is to let the folks know that they are ‘’good enough.’’ We want people to know that they are ‘’alright.’’ It is imperative for folks to know that it is ‘’okay’’ to be who they are. This can NOT be stressed enough to ensure that a change is to take place.

---Self-worth will increase through interaction of those who have value for the individual they are talking to. To ensure that one values the other, one must be sure that one values people in general (himself as well as others.) If one does this then he will automatically value others. He may or may NOT like everyone to be his best friend or whathaveyou, but he must be able to understand that ‘’All Beings Have Value.’’ If he doesn’t know this…one may find that he is not valuing his subject. That will delay the procedure.

---When one feels he is valued then he approaches life with a confidence that aids him in all he does. He finds that he is now concerned for the well-being of others and has a caring for things that happen. The quality of his life has certainly been enriched. With this upgrade to life, we hope that one is now able to think enough of himself and life as it is to say NO to whatever it is that has addicted him in the past…and mean it. Becoming addicted or readdicted has lost its’ appeal and now is unattractive and doesn’t have the same hold that it once did. To be free of whatever it is, is much more rewarding. He now makes better decisions.

Why It Behooves Folks To NOT Become Re-addicted!

---It behooves folks to NOT become re-addicted, because they are now on the road to discover oneself if they haven’t already. They are now on a path that is much preferable to what they were doing before – being addicted and searching for The NEXT FIX. They feel much better. It is like day and night. To return to the old life doesn’t make much sense. They may rather help others to become non-addicted and they find that that aids in their own journey. Be Well.



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Thursday, September 24, 2020

Wednesday, September 16, 2020

Monday, September 14, 2020

A WEBSITE YOU MAY LIKE: SELF-CREATION!

 


TRANSFORMATION!
A VERY COMPREHENSIVE METAPHYSICAL SITE
FOR MEN and WOMEN


http://selfcreation.com - CLICK

Tuesday, September 8, 2020

Monday, September 7, 2020

SYMBIOTIC: AN AUTHENTIC LOOK

SYMBIOTIC:
AN AUTHENTIC LOOK


---We have been asked to make the concept of symbiotic very simple as it applies in an authentic way to the hospital setting.


---To quickly explain to those who may NOT know, symbiotic (in our hospital setting) – is where the staff depends on the resident as much as the resident depends on the staff. To go a step further...the patient needs the staff to help him to lead as normal a life as possible. The opposite is true for the staff. His job depends on the patient. He is paid for his services, in both cash and in the satisfaction that he has helped a fellow human being which carries with it its own rewards.


---The goal of the Nursing Home/Hospital is for the patient to reach the highest and truest of himself. The patient should thrive + prosper according to his abilities, needs and preferences. The patient should be at the top of his game as much as is possible in happiness and contentedness. The job of the staff is to make that happen. 

---A happy and contented Nursing Home/Hospital will only occur if ALL the players in the game are happy and contented. I'm sure you can figure this out. Help each other out if need be the case. Don’t compete and compare with each other. Leave your problems at the door. If you have any gripes put them in the suggestion box - anonymous as you like. If you have something fixed that bugs you, others may be positively affected. Let’s make this a better place to be for ALL the staff and the residents. Truly, we are ALL in this together! Be Well.

Friday, August 28, 2020

KELLER WATER, ''SHE KNOWS''


The MIRACLE WORKER
PATTY DUKE as HELEN KELLER
ANNE BANCROFT as ANNIE SULLIVAN


CLICK HEADLINE




Saturday, August 22, 2020

Thursday, August 20, 2020

Saturday, August 8, 2020

Sunday, April 19, 2020

Thursday, April 9, 2020

'Thank U Frontline' by Chris Mann (Alanis Morissette)


Thank You All On The Frontlines
You Make Me Proud!