WHAT IS TO BE HEARD + TAKEN SERIOUSLY!

 What Is Being Heard + Taken Seriously?

---Let us first state what we think that folks need to be heard and be taken seriously about. I think that most people want to know they are OKAY! That it is okay to be who they are. A simple ‘yes’ may NOT be sufficient. Folks need to be convinced that it is ALRIGHT to be who they are. Of course the answer is ‘yes’…but, it is amazing that when push really comes to shove…how much that FACT is NOT known.

---The unfortunate part that can happen is that one begins to compete + compare himself with his neighbor to discover the answer to this question. He looks AT his neighbor and answers his own question. He answers the question by knowing if he is doing better than the neighbor…or, if he’s a better person than his neighbor. The answer comes in terms of how he is doing compared to his neighbor and is really NOT the answer he is looking for. (It is about doing/being the best you possibly can be.)

---Being convinced that he is heard and taken seriously frees one to then leave that question behind and be secure with who one is. When someone truly knows that it is okay to be himself…NOT just in comparison to others, one begins to enjoy living fully. He no longer needs to prove what he hopes the answer to be…and moves on to enjoy his new found freedom.

---When one is truly heard and taken seriously…he now has more quality in his life. He has been freed from discovering that answer to the dynamic which plagues most people until they answer it. Am I ’GOOD ENOUGH?’ When he is convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt that the answer is YES...he will be free. Until then, everything that he does will always have that as part of what he wants to know - am I good enough?

Previously Posted 3/15.

TALKING TO A VOLUNTEER!

ARGUMENT

---And, then she stated that she likes the way they argue. I immediately asked what she meant by that. She saId that most of the guys she had known had blown up and got very defensive every time she started to speak her truth and explain the way she saw the relationship. They would tell her directly how wrong she was. She said that they did not physically retaliate HOWEVER...it was nevertheless ''very painful.'' She prefers the way her and her new boyfriend...disagree! They discuss. They don't argue. There is NO YELLING. It's much better...AND more productive.

---I told her that this is the vision I have of many of the people here at the hospital. Residents and Staff, alike. This is also why I believe that PEOPLE, in general, FEEL LIKE THEY ARE NOT GOOD ENOUGH! AND, it is at EPIDEMIC PROPORTIONs. Many people get such negative feedback when they express their truth and how they see things. They are told that it sounds stupid or even worse. Sometimes they are told they are stupid or even worse. Folks are held in check by one another and NOT encouraged to truthfully express how they feel. Someone doesn’t like it and it stops the process right away. Usually by yelling or an expletive or some sort of way. Most people seem to be in a semi-constipated holding pattern needing to express how they really feel.

---One can easily see that many folks at the hospital have never properly learned to express themselves. They start yelling right away as I'm sure they were taught. Defensiveness seems to run the show. To me...I think that it is very important to learn to express yourself. BUT, it is, also, important to know the way that you feel about things so, you know what to express. Otherwise, it will just be noise!

---Whether the relationship is ideal or not, it sounds that the arguing is on a better level than when it was all about the fear of speaking the truth.  As we have mentioned, trial and error is how we learn. We hone how we feel by whittling away at the truth. When we are afraid to speak our mind at the beginning...there seems to be an error right out of the gate.

---You can learn that it is possible to express your feelings without name calling, screaming and swearing. This just happens to be the way that many think that it is supposed to be. A Discussion to many folks is another word for Argument, because that is what they know. It doesn’t necessarily have to be the case. There are other, more civil ways, to talk things over that allows both sides to express how they feel about the issue. It isn’t always a case of the most forceful who wins the argument. BRAWN OVER BRAIN! Usually, the winner is the one whose argument makes the most sense. But how about when both sides express their feelings (a constipated situation is avoided) and a compromise is reached meeting the needs of all parties. ALL PARTIES ARE HAPPY! Now…that sounds good. Be Well.

TERRY BECKER + Planet EARTH: The SIMILARITY + ADD ON!

Terry Becker AND Planet Earth:
The SIMILARITY


---We must now realize that Terry Becker is much the same as Planet earth. BUT…why do we say this? First of all, Terry Becker is the name of the female patient that Dr. Victoria Sweet gave to her former patient in ''God's Hotel.'' ''God's Hotel'' is the name of her book that chronicled her 20 year experience of Laguna Honda Hospital. (She was my doctor when she took her sabbatical to write the book.) 

---We must realize that the same SLOW MEDICINE that healed Terry Becker will also work on healing Planet Earth. The only ‘’job’’ that we have in the process is…to ALLOW it to happen. We must put Planet Earth in the same condition of WELLNESS as Dr. Sweet placed Terry Becker and watch. Remember: a cut or a wound will heal if we let it.

---We have heard it put very eloquently by Dr. Victoria Sweet. The near fatal bedsore of Terry Becker was healed when NOT interfered with by anyone/anything. It took some time, but in an increasing manner the sore of Terry Becker healed.

The STORY of TERRY BECKER

(From 7:35 mins to

13:00 mins)

---Terry has MUCH in common with our own - Planet Earth. It is also in need of a healing. And…the viriditas, the life-force, the god-force, etc., and so on…is right there ready, willing and able to do the same job that it did on Terry Becker - if we let it (and DON’T INTERFERE.)

---If we apply this SLOW MEDICINE to Planet Earth AND allow it to do it’s thing…a healing will take place. Once again…we have to let it. We must exercise patience and re-learn many things that promotes this condition. It can be seen as delicate as a pregnant woman giving birth to a ‘’newly-healed-self.’’ The recipe is right there…we just have to eliminate what does NOT promote healing. We have added the rest in April, 2021.

NEXT STEP: The SIMILARITY

Terry Becker, Planet Earth, A Cut or Wound,

Golden Buddha Within

The Golden Buddha is the term used for the ''BEST'' That is WITHIN US ALL.

---You can see that the Similarity in each case is that we have let or allowed ‘The Golden Buddha’ to show itself or SHINE THROUGH...and the HEALING TO TAKE PLACE. When ALLOWED the chipping away takes place and LETS ‘’THE GOLDEN BUDDHA’’ SHINE THROUGH. We promote this to happen when we ALLOW IT. It is the WITHIN-NESS of all things. We eliminate all the things that do NOT promote this (discomforts, boyfriend who used + abused her, smoking, etc.) This is the same story that is spoken of in the first 3 mins and 40 seconds of the movie ‘‘FINDING JOE.’’ (BELOW)

---In all cases, we would see the ‘chipping away’ occur and the emergence of ‘’The GOLDEN BUDDHA’’ which is the HEALING that has ever been spoken of.

---One may see the similarity of the viriditas and ‘’The GOLDEN BUDDHA.’’ If ALLOWED IN ITS OWN TIME...HEALING WILL TAKE PLACE.

''FINDING JOE'' REFERS TO FINDING THE JOSEPH CAMPBELL (THE HERO OF THE HERO'S JOURNEY) WITHIN. MY HOPE IS THAT YOU ALL FIND IT!

NEW!

YOU MAY FIND IT EASIER TO LOOK AT IT THIS WAY. WITHIN US ALL IS ''THE GOLDEN BUDDHA.'' IT IS WHO WE THINK WE ARE THAT KEEPS ''THE GOLDEN BUDDHA'' FROM SHINING THROUGH. AS WE GROW and REALIZE MORE, OUR OWN IGNORANT-SELF FALLS AWAY and REVEALS ''THE GOLDEN BUDDHA'' HIDDEN WITHIN.

THIS IS ALL REVEALED WITHIN THE FIRST 3 MINS and 40 SECONDS OF THE MOVIE.

IF YOU REALLY ''GET'' THIS, YOU ''GET IT ALL!''

AND, WHEN I SAY IT ALL...I MEAN IT ALL!

ALL WE MUST DO IS LET IT REVEAL ITSELF TO US. EVENTUALLY ''THE GOLDEN BUDDHA'' SHINES THROUGH AS WHO WE THINK WE ARE...CHIPS AWAY!

TO TAKE THIS ONE STEP FURTHER -

THE MORE ENLIGHTENED WILL SEE THAT THE GOLDEN BUDDHA CAN BE CALLED THE CHRIST WITHIN or THE TRUTH WITHIN or THE KINGDOM WITHIN, ETC...!

IN ESSENCE IT IS THE HIGHEST and TRUEST OF WHO WE REALLY ARE and/or ALL THAT IS!

The Golden Buddha, (The Viriditas,) is simply THE TERM USED for the ''BEST'' within us all. It is WHAT REMAINS AFTER ALL ELSE FALLS (CHIPS) AWAY!

SMART REHABILITATION

SMART REHABILITATION

 

CLICK ANY THOUGHTOON!

    ---We think we made a viable case for NOT being DEPRIVED of the necessities of life – being valued, being appreciated, cared for, loved, etc. We know that people do far better in life when they get these needs met. When they are deprived of these fundamental human needs they end up being DEPRAVED (negative) in some way. We assume the physiological needs of food, clothing and shelter are being taken care of.

---When people feel depraved and negative inside, they try to change that feeling. They deal with this situation by involving themselves in something that serves to ease the distress that they are feeling. The only thing that makes a difference and will make things right is something that creates the love and appreciation, being valued, etc., that is needed. Only these things will serve to make the pain better...in the long run. If he/she hits on things that are needed, than a positive boost will be experienced. If he/she heads toward things that increases self-acceptance...than those things will keep him/her on track.

---If what is done runs away from facing the self then the negatives will be experienced. The negatives come into play when one runs from facing himself. He is now NOT getting his needs met.  The ADDICTION is being born at this point. It will be stopped when he/she faces him/herself. He will identify the need and he will meet it. We wish to rehabilitate the whole-person and not just the half-hearted, band aid on cancer rehab that we have been seeing. To rehab the whole person, we should increase his/her self-esteem, his/her self worth, etc. We have to help him/her find a good reason to say NO...and NOT become re-addicted. He/she has to be convinced that there is a good enough reason to say NO...so, he/she has NO need to run. It seems that people have to realize it is worth staying sober. It is better that they are NOT always under the influence.

---Facing up to the fact that I have one hand was the same thing for me. Believe me...if I could face things I didn't like about myself, you can do it TOO. As I said, ''it isn't necessarily going to be easy, but it is possible.'' And, it is well-worth it.

---When you face things that you don't like about yourself. BE KIND to YOURSELF. Take it slow. You DON'T have to start with the most difficult thing that you can imagine about your self right away. It is like the rabbit and the tortoise. Sometimes it is three steps forward and two steps back. Go Slow...but remember you are making progress. This is a ''big one.'' Remember that Slow and Steady wins the race.

---However, if an emptiness is there, then we still have a problem. There is something NOT being faced. He or she will feel a hole within that still needs to be filled. As we said, this emptiness can only be filled by the right stuff. The correct stuff that is necessary would be whatever makes him/her fulfilled for a long period. It's important to be honest…otherwise the emptiness is still there and needs to be filled. For me it was my left-hand, but for someone else it, probably, is something else. What I did realize is that we all seem to have a negative attitude about something about ourselves that we are NOT cool with. Acceptance in this area would NOT be a bad thing and would open the door for getting the needs met.

CLICK THOUGHTOONs!

 ---When we are DEPRIVED of things that we need…that’s when the heartaches begin. We spend much of our time trying to do what is necessary to get these needs met. The more DEPRIVED we are is reflected in how DEPRAVED (NEGATIVE) we are feeling and acting. What I needed existed on the other side of the door. It became the Door of HONESTY. When I told others how I felt about my hand, etc., that is when I began filling in the emptiness about my own situation. I stopped DEPRIVING myself with this newly found honesty about the things that were real in my life and how I really felt. I began to accept myself allowing myself to experience many, more of the good things of life. To be loved, cared for, appreciated, valued, etc. As I said, if I can do it, you can do it.

---Anytime one is not being honest about himself and NOT learning to accept him or herself will still leave him/herself wanting and unfulfilled (DEPRIVED and EMPTY.) He/she will find that he will be making decisions that attempt to create situations that will try to get those needs met in order to feel fulfilled.

---SMART REHABILITATION happens when the patient   embodies the understanding that those experiences that he or she is feeling - valued, appreciated, loved, cared for, etc...are real. He or she is convinced that these NOW exist for him or her as they never did before. Things are different now. They are very real and this is now the way it is.  A complete 180 degree turn is NOT uncommon, eventually.

---SMART REHABILITATION works on helping the patient learn new techniques to feel more valued and appreciated. The patient is taught ways to make better decisions. The patient is encouraged to stand on his own. He or she is given new tools that help to bring clarity to his vision and see things clearly to be able to better negotiate his way through life. He is now assured enough so he/she can rely on him/herself to get what he/she needs. He now has the kind of tools to live a very satisfying non-addicted life. The sky really is the limit. Any limits have always been imposed by him or herself. Mediocrity is always a choice if that’s what is wanted. BUT, now It is NO LONGER something you’re required to settle for. Be Well.

WHEN THINGS ARE RIGHT...THE PATIENT FEELS WHOLE WITHOUT HIS ADDICTION. HE or SHE LEARNS THAT IT IS POSSIBLE TO ENJOY LIFE WITHOUT THE ADDICTION!

WHEN THE NEEDS OF THE PATIENT ARE MET, THEN HE DOES MUCH BETTER!


---This a draft. I reserve the right to make changes as I see fitting.

michael jackson - heal the world lyrics

Stevie Wonder - As

HOW THE WORLD CONFLICT OF YESTERYEAR PERTAINS TO TODAY, WITH DAVID + GOLIATH!

 World Conflict Pertains To Hospital Resident/Patient - 3/27/11

---We find unrest all around the world, at this point. It mostly seems that the individual is asserting himself and the oppressive government where he is located, (Tunisia, Egypt, Bahrain and Libya,) is having a difficult time accepting this. They react violently to a non-violent proposal made by the protesters. This was, basically, the same conflict that we always have had. MANKIND'S inability to get along with each other.

----We see that this is, also, showing itself at the hospital. The resident is standing toe-to-toe with the administration, asserting itself as a viable entity…much as the citizens of the oppressed nations around the globe. It is the same as stating that, ‘’we are as mad as hell and are not going to take it anymore.’’ As long as there are two sides, someone will be as ‘’mad as hell,’’ at one-time-or other. Working, together, will help resolve the situation.

---To be more fair, I have to admit to a big improvement that has taken place over the last few years. When I first arrived at the hospital in 2003, the resident and the staff were more like ships that pass in the night. There wasn't much in the way of communication. But, there has been an improvement in the last few years that let's me know that headway is being made. It is a big ship that moves very slowly, at times, while, in-the-meantime, I've been known to try and ''push-the-river.'' Not a very good match in that regard.

---We can learn from our own David and Goliath where we realize that the stoning WILL STOP when they break bread together and see each other as equals. Their has to be an honesty for any two sides anywhere, to come together. Peace will happen when negotiations take place for needs and preferences of those on BOTH sides. This will be the ONLY way that a real peace will take place. There may or not be a lot of compromising on both sides. There has to be an honesty on BOTH SIDES. There is a great need to concenrate on what they have in common AND just not just trying to change their differences so that they line up. Honest Communication is needed.

---The gap exists and the gulf is very wide in some places. The real solution is the same in ALL cases. The truth of the matter is that, ‘’We are all in this together.’’ It is just a matter of realizing that fact. We then work together and weed the garden to make the existing situation a positive one for all concerned. As long as everyone has a different outcome in mind, we tend to experience this chaos. UNITY WILL HAPPEN WHEN WE ARE ON THE SAME PAGE. Take Care.

This could be why you're depressed or anxious | Johann Hari

ANOTHER GREAT TEDtalk BY JOHANN HARI. I HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT. HE HAS A VERY SIMPLE and CLEAR WAY OF EXPLAINING MANY THINGS THAT INTEREST ME. (MANY ANECDOTES.)

A MAN HAD HIS LEG BLOWN OFF WHILE WORKING IN A RICE FIELD. HE WAS FITTED WITH A PROSTHETIC SO HE COULD GO BACK TO WORK. THE PAIN OF WORKING WITH A LOT OF WATER NOW MADE HIS PROSTHETIC LEG TO BE UNBEARABLE. HE WAS BROUGHT TO TEARS, MANY TIMES, FROM THE PAIN. THE BRAINSTORMING SOLUTION WAS THAT HE WAS THEN GIVEN A ''COW'' INSTEAD TO CHANGE OCCUPATIONS. THE ''COW'' BECAME AN ANTI-DEPRESSANT FOR THE SITUATION. HE BECAME A DAIRY FARMER WHICH WAS MUCH BETTER FOR HIM AND MUCH, LESS PAINFUL. LIFE WAS MORE LIVEABLE AGAIN. HE WAS GIVEN A COW TO ADDRESS A CERTAIN NEED. THROUGH LISTENING, THIS SOLUTION TO MEET THE NEED THEY WERE DEALING WITH, CAME ABOUT. 

JUST LIKE JUNK FOODS HAVE TAKEN OVER OUR LIVES AND MADE US PHYSICALLY SICK, WE HAVE A KIND OF JUNK VALUES THAT HAS MADE US MENTALLY SICK, ALSO. WE HAVE A SORT OF ''KFC OF THE SOUL.'' WE LIVE IN A MACHINE THAT GETS US TO NEGLECT WHAT IS IMPORTANT IN LIFE.

OUR DEPRESSION IS A SIGNAL AND WE NEED TO LEARN TO LISTEN TO IT. IF WE DO THIS WE WILL  BEGIN TO SEE THE ''COWS'' WAITING ALL AROUND US...AND MAKE BETTER DECISIONS BECAUSE OF THEM. THE JUNK VALUES WILL NO LONGER RULE OUR LIVES AS THEY DO.

A RECIPE for a HAPPY EASTER!

A RECIPE FOR HAPPINESS

 

 

---There are over 8 billion people on the planet…now. The numbers are rising with virtually NO end in sight. This is very alarming in itself. But, what boils my bobcat is that we seem to take our cues from one another and see our success...at one another’s expense.

---We compete + compare ourselves with each other to see how we’re doing. If someone seems to be having a tougher time than we are…we see that as some kind of sign that we are doing okay. When another seems to be doing better we can’t wait to tear him down to size. We don’t seem to live and let live very well. This is NOT a recipe for happiness.

---When was the last time we were TRULY glad over someone’s success? It was probably not that long ago. But, it doesn’t usually take TOO long when we are finding fault with that same individual. We end up resenting any further success he may have. We are all good at being armchair quarterbacks for the rest of us. (This applies to me, also.)

---We ALL seem to be expert on living each other’s life. We praise when it serves our purpose and criticize unmercifully to show off our astuteness, power or whatever.

---I see as a solution to ALL this is to become an ‘’armchair quarterback’’ to ourselves. See ourselves with the same eyes that we use on others. Take our own advice. Take the advice you would give to 5 folks close to you…and turn it on yourself. See your own game through those same critical eyes that you freely share behind the backs of those closest to you.

---Be good to yourself in this process. This may be NEW to you. Honestly…any pain you encounter is short-lived compared to the freedom you eventually experience. It literally is getting that ‘’monkey off your back’’ for good. You will no longer be snarky + sarcastic and NOW work for the common good. You will genuinely be happy at another’s success. You may realize that you have become a team player who actually benefit’s + likes the success of another. You have rejoined the land of the living in some sense. Use it wisely. This is much more a recipe for happiness. Be Well.

 

UNREQUITED LOVE - The UNREQUITED SELF!

UNREQUITED LOVE;

The UNREQUITED SELF

CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---Did you ever LOVE someone who didn’t LOVE you back? Did you ever have a crush on someone who didn’t feel the same way about you? This is hardcore rejection as far as I can see AND you will, probably, spend some time in the dumper because of it.

---At those times it can feel like you were kicked in the pit of the stomach…and you can’t see anyway out. It is very difficult to do anything else. This consumes, basically, every bit of attention you can muster. You spend a lot of time on different ways that you should have handled things. You spend much time living in the ‘if…only’s.’

---This is important to remember at those times. You WILL feel better, even, though, you CAN’T see it. It doesn’t seem like you will ever pullout of this one. As many of us know…that this won’t last forever. When you get back into the flow of things, everything will be better…EVENTUALLY!

---I’d like to say here that many of us are in that boat (staff and resident, alike,) we just aren’t aware of that fact. We have this thing called our potential, and if you are like many of us, you aren’t quite living up to it. You are unrequited in that sense. So, then you will probably say, if I don’t know what that is, it can’t hurt ME.

---I think there is a restless part of ourselves that is well aware of how we’re doing in terms of our capabilities. As the old saying goes…you CAN’T fool mother nature. If you are fulfilling what your purpose is and doing what is on target for you, that is reflected in how you feel about what you’re doing. The questions that arise are not ‘what should I be doing?’ but, more like, ‘I wonder if this is the BEST way to do what I’m doing?’ You'll be fine tuning and tweaking INSTEAD of being stuck on the major questions all-the-time.

---That is why I see self-acceptance to be so important. If everything that you do has the feel of I don’t feel I’m good enough to do it, everything that you do will reflect that. You will be asking that question ad nauseam - am I doing what I’m suppose to be doing? OR, better yet…am I suppose to be who I am? And you will probably find yourself drinking and drugging more than you should. 

---With self-acceptance…that question will have already been answered. The doubt that you will labor under without self-acceptance will negatively affect the quality of ALL you produce. True self-acceptance will make things right. When you truly love the self, and where the self feels truly acceptable, you will find that this connection brings the satisfaction that you have been seeking all along. You will find you are, FINALLY, at HOME with YOURSELF! Be Well.

ACCEPT YOURSELF - SO CALLED FLAWS + ALL!

---REPRINTED FROM AN EARLIER TIME

''THE BEST WAY TO FEEL LOVED IS TO BE LOVING!''