KINDNESS - Patients/Staff

 

REMEMBER: Kindness Begins With YOU, No Matter Who YOU Are!

The DOCTOR 1991 (Complete Movie) - William Hurt

---I was fortunate to find this movie on YouTube. A movie that everyone in the helping profession should see. Read more below. Watch, if you care to, while it's agreement is still current.  

A LESSON FOR DR. VICTORIA SWEET

A LESSON FOR

DR. VICTORIA SWEET

and US ALL

---I'd like to speak about something that Dr. Sweet mentions in her book, ''God's Hotel.'' On page 29 in one of the versions of the book she speaks of talking to a Miss Tod. Miss Tod had brain cancer that was still growing behind her right eye. The eye had been removed and her eyelid was sewn shut. Dr. Sweet mentions that she was hard to look at.

---Having gotten used to the physical appearance of Miss Tod, and after exchanging pleasantries...Dr. Sweet looked at Miss Tod and asked if there was anything that she could do for her?

She expected euthanasia, some sort of miracle cure, stronger pain medication or even a second opinion. With all the poise and equanimity Miss Tod asked if there was something Dr. Sweet could do about her food being so bland and a pair of eyeglasses. Dr. Sweet mentions being floored by the response. She helped her with those things. Miss Tod changed wards and lived another 18 months.

---What Dr. Sweet learned that day was priceless from my perspective. From Miss Tod's attitude she learned that ''somehow she accepted her fate, and it was the small things, the little daily things, that were important to her.'' Dr. Sweet goes on to speak of bravery at the core.

--She then mentioned something that floored me. Admitting that many young doctors are very healthy, curious, hardworking, etc. What do they know of misfortune? And, even when there is no cancer to deal with, the patient still has his needs and preferences. Reread the section about Miss Tod if you've forgotten the story. As I said it's page 29 in my book and lasts about two pages. It is a good lesson for all of us. Be Well.

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The Doctor - Movie Trailer 1991

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---This movie was suggested to me by someone in the social services department. I couldn't find the movie trailer without subtitles. It is about a doctor who was a brilliant surgeon that lacked skills in the human relationship/bedside manner dept., that is so very important to the process. The callous surgeon played by William Hurt develops a tumor and meets many doctors equally as cold and aloof as he was. The surgeon is now victimized by same attitudes and callous behaviors that were much like his own. He learns a valuable lesson through all this AND...you have to watch the movie for more! WORTH VIEWING!

COMPLETE MOVIE ABOVE!

The TASK + The TLC

The TASK and The TLC

---We will begin by being sure our definitions are on the same page. We can easily see what is meant by TASK. TLC is the Tender Loving Care that one uses in the situation. This can be or is not being incorporated into the TASK. I hope we are clear on the three conditions I am speaking of. 1] TASK alone (without TLC), 2] TLC alone (without TASK) and 3] The ideal state - the TASK + the TLC, together.

---Next, we can hang these conditions on our Care Partners. Our Care Partners are the people who help us in the moment we are in. The Care Partner is in someway communicating some degree of TASK + TLC. He is communicating some combination of TASK + TLC to the patient.

---The TASKs alone are the easier of the two, to measure. They are very quantitative. If you want something done and someone does it, you can say that the TASK is complete.

---A more difficult measurement is the TLC involved. We will use words like compassion, kindness and niceness to describe these states. We can have a needy care partner getting signs to back off or needy patient not getting much compassion from his Care Partner.

---An ideal here would be one of the correct amount of compassion, kindness and/or niceness passing between the Care Partner and Patient. It is based on what makes the situation run at the optimum. It is very important to know each other’s boundaries.

---Where does one see himself in these different conditions with those he/she deals with? Is the situation working or not? By adjusting the amount of TASK + TLC on either the Care Partner or Patient…is it possible to make the relationship better? You may realize by now that these measurements can easily translate to your everyday relationships, also. Be Well.

SAME EMOTIONs;DIFFERENT REASONs

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