THE SURPRISING HABITS of ORIGINAL THINKERS - ADAM GRANT

 

ADAM GRANT -

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We Are ALL ADDICTED...SOMEWHERE!

AVOIDING FACING YOURSELF -
The ''HEAD HONCHO'' 
of ALL ADDICTION!

---The Major Addiction for me was my left-hand. For those who aren’t aware of this: I was born missing four fingers on my left-hand. My learning to deal with how I felt about my hand taught me much of what Leo (below) speaks about in the video. I learned much about ADDICTION and LIFE, ITSELF, in the process.

---Everything that distracts one from facing him/her-self…is the addiction. The substance one addicts himself to is just the distracting tool one uses to do this. By hiding my hand in my pocket, I was addicted to people NOT seeing me as less than perfect. I was addicted to people NOT knowing the real me. After-all, they may not like me if they did.

---To make a long story short…the more one is himself, the more one is quiet within, the more present one is. When one understands what ADDICTION really is, and how it plagues many different aspects of our lives, one can then understand what he, himself, and many others do most of the time. People, for the most part - The ''HEAD HONCHO'' of ALL ADDICTION - AVOID FACING THEMSELVES!

ROOT CAUSE of ALL ADDICTION!

The ''HEAD HONCHO'' 

of ALL ADDICTION!

The MANY FACES of the EGO!

ECKHART TOLLE

COMMENTARIES ON LIVING SERIES BOOK 1 - J. KRISHNAMURTI

 

http://selfdefinition.org/krishnamurti/Jiddu_Krishnamurt_Commentaries_On_Living_1.pdf

---This is probably the best book I ever read. It was in the 1970's when I read many of Krishnamurti's books. As with many of his books, I found it very eye-opening. It was one of the many things that happened to me in the 1970's that turned my life around.

---The book is made up of 1 or 2 page explanations of what Krishnamurti has found life to be. It is very clear and to the point. I was fascinated with how crystal clear his vision was. I had never read anything like it. And that goes to this day. 

---My recommendation is to read a few pages to see if you agree. To further test my observation, find a two pager that pertains to you. I think you will agree that you never read a book like this. I'll bet that crystal clear and to the point will be in your mind somewhere. I think that you'll find yourself wanting to read more. Enjoy...!

SECRETS TO BEING HAPPY - ECKHART TOLLE

 

ECKHART TOLLE

''WATCH IF YOU'RE FEELING DOWN!''

DECISION-MAKING SKILLs

Decisions FOR or Decisions WITH

---There once were two brothers, who were very different. The big difference that was quite noticeable was that one of the brothers had decisions made for him, for the most part...while the other brother made his own decisions, for the most part.

---The brother who had his decisions all made for him never seemed to develop the ability to make decisions. When left to his own devices, which wasn't often, the poor guy wouldn't know what to do. If the truth be told...he did NOT know himself very well. The repercussions of decisions he made, which weren't many, made many people angry, also.

---The brother who made his own decisions was much more self-possessed and, through trial and error, learned what worked and what didn't. He easily took responsibility for decisions he made, and, if truth be told, most were sound, anyway.

---The brother who made decisions was easier to work with as giving his opinion was an easy thing to do. The brother who did not make decisions, was easily led. He was a sheep in need of a shepherd.

---If we truly are to rehabilitate people, I think that it is extremely valuable to pay attention to the decision-making skills of people we are making well. As would be with any member of the PANE CLINIC...we must be sure that a rehabilitated person is seeing with clarity. With a clearer vision, he is, now, ready and equipped with the tools to make decisions that are solid and building of a brighter future. 

---Those rehabbed in this way learn to make good decisions and learn ways that prevent him from easily being sucked back into a life of disease, illness, pain and hopelessness. A life where addiction runs the show. Their lives may improve and then they may positively affect many lives...accordingly. Be Well.

CLICK THOUGHTOON!

PANE CLINIC - To clear up ones vision and visibility. To see oneself better and to ultimately increase self-knowledge. To ''promote'' kindness.

BLAME DOESN'T WORK...IN THE LONG RUN!

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GOOGLE IMAGES - BLAME (CLICK)

BLAME

---Blame is one of those things that happens MUCH too often. It usually rears its’ head when something we are responsible for isn’t as good as it’s as it is thought it is suppose to be. The ball has been dropped.  NEGATIVE FEEDBACK starts to fly and the EXCUSES come out. The FINGERs start pointing. We usually, then, go the whole 9 yards (if necessary) BLAMING whomever is necessary to make ourselves look good. We SAVE FACE. An old friend that I think is responsible for much that is wrong with the world. We get defensive and then we SAVE FACE. We throw whomever we deem necessary under the bus to exonerate ourselves from any responsibility (blame.)  I would like to say here that even with all of this going on…if there is any credit left on the table we do our best to scoop THAT UP.

CLICK THOUGHTOON!

 ---We usually admit that we may have done something wrong only as a last resort. At present we seem to get very stuck on who is to blame and his/her other obvious faults that have allowed the follow through and resolution to slip away. Somehow identifying where the blame lies AND who is to be hanged in effigy takes precedence over finding a remedy to the problem. By lowering the bar on most fronts gives us spare time to deservedly berate who he or she is that deserves the blame in our mind. The person being blamed ends up looking so faulty that it is amazing that his input was so necessary in the first place and that he was even allowed to be on the team.

 ---Instead of everyone blaming everyone, we just recognize how rampart it runs and that in general people aren’t very responsible. They are very good at saving face taking credit for things that make them look good. But, folks just can’t basically handle being blamed (taking responsibility.) People will throw MOM under the bus sometimes if things are getting too bad. We have to learn – People Don’t Always HAVE TO Look Perfect. One learns THROUGH trial and error. Man makes mistakes on the way to learning and more/less on a regular basis. The more difficult we make it to make a mistake the more difficult we make learning itself. I really think that we should reevaluate our attitude to mistake making, taking responsibility, blame, saving face and lightening-up on the whole thing. It is a way that we keep the game and the players in a constant state of check. The only way out is to face embarrassment. Folks do toughen up through this procedure AND they learn valuable life lessons, but usually try to avoid this at all costs. 

---If we have learned anything from the many sex scandals we are seeing, everything has a way of coming back. I think it behooves us to put things in order. It behooves us to own up and take responsibility for what we have done. We have all made mistakes in many different fields. There is nobody who is exempt from this. Remember that it is always worse thinking about facing something than the actual facing of it. The verdict is in and we are ALL GUILTY of something or other. We should stop whatever negative things we may be doing. As a response to all this…WE GROW! WE LEARN! Eventually…we are propelled to higher levels when all the pain/discomfort we caused…is resolved.  We begin again and STOP being pulled back down. Be accountable and take responsibility. Let's forgive one another AND be kind. Be Well.

ZEN VOLUNTEER - ZCP

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JOHN R.

SPENT LAST 11 YEARS

AS A ZEN VOLUNTEER

---I Know John R., Very Well and Spoke With Him Many Times. He Is Very Affable and Easy To Know. I Am Assured That Zen Volunteers Will Be Returning Soon, After Being Gone Since The Start of The Pandemic. The Zen Volunteers Are A Wonderful Bunch of People Who I Have Shared Much With Over The Years. They Are ALL Very Astute And Very Savvy. With Every Zen Volunteer I've Met, You Immediately Are Aware How They Are On Your Side Right From The Beginning. For Many, It Doesn't Take Long To Realize That The Zen Volunteers Are The People Who Noah Webster Meant When He Defined The Word FRIEND For The Dictionary. Thank You, John, and Thank You ALL VOLUNTEERS!

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