FRUSTRATION QUIZ

CONSIDER THIS...

FRUSTRATION - QUIZ

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1. Did you ever plan on something to happen on schedule, and then the plans were changed?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

2. Has the telephone ever rang while you were doing something important?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

3. Has your boss ever given you too much work...and a deadline?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

4. Have you ever been waiting in a long line, getting near to the time you know
you have to be someplace else?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

5. Have you ever lost or misplaced your keys? [A Classic]
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

6. Did anyone ever cut ahead of you in line?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

7. Have you ever been stuck in traffic?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

8. Did you ever realize that something you believed in can't be trusted any longer?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

9. Have you ever been in pain, but had to wait for relief to kick-in?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

10. Did you ever find yourself to be hungry, but had NO food or money?
If YES, then you've probably experienced FRUSTRATION!

FRUSTRATION
 

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---Frustration, we can see, comes into play when we have an idea to go a certain way...and, we are told we must go another. Our expectations are thwarted. We are inclined to go one way, but are forced to go another.
 
---We find that this plays out many, many times in our lives. We have one set of ideas, but others have other ideas about what is to be done. We have to learn the art of compromise. It is NOT a bad thing to become acquainted with as we travel.
 
---Frustrations, big or small, have one thing that they INTERNALLY all have in common. No matter what makes up your life, frustration is based on where you are in life vs. your own potential. It is always between what you are/do, up against our natural talents to do things. Learning how to best deal with these obstacles to growth is the way we learn our life lessons to grow and improve...to reach our potential. It gets hairy when our very survival comes into the mix.  We have to learn attitudes that repair our ways of handling them. We may need help!
 
---Whenever we are thwarted in our attempts to grow, we will experience frustration. Stress goes hand-in-hand with frustration much of the time. Frustration can be a prelude to learning. Usually, there is something that is good to know around the corner.
 
---The FRUSTRATION QUIZ is just small way we see that frustration is potentially there all-the-time. It may be helpful to write down your biggest oppressive situations. Also, write down times you have been the oppressor. OR, you can have yourself a fun, safe time this NEW YEAR'S and come back to it sometime in the near future. Be Well and Happy New Year!

The PLATINUM RULE

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---SOMETHING I FEEL IS APPLICABLE IN SOMEWAY!

AMY CUDDY - SOCIAL SCIENTIST!

''FAKE IT UNTIL YOU BECOME IT!''

CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE: CHANGE YOUR LIFE!

CLICK THOUGHTOON!

---This may spur you on to listen to her TEDtalks + YouTubes.

REALIZATION THAT HELPs US STOP HATING!

What Realization Helps Stop Us Hating?

---You can have one realization that stops you from disliking other people. It is the realization that keeps others off of any negative list we may have. Realization: You don’t hate or dislike the other person or people, but hate or dislike the behavior that is used.

---When you look into this a bit more deeply we find that it generally the behavior or attitude of other people (or our own) that causes ALL the problems. That’s what we find ourselves reacting to.

---To go a step further into this cave…we find that the values one has, directs what attitudes + behaviors the person uses. If the values change, than usually the attitudes + behaviors change.

---Attitudes + behaviors can be like coats folks put-on or take-off. If someone is doing something we don’t particularly like or saying something we find irritating they are probably wearing a garment from ‘’His Own Values Store’’ that we don’t like. The opposite is true if we find we like something.

---If we want to make changes in our attitudes and behaviors - we have to make changes in the values to insure any lasting changes are made. Peoples values are difficult to mess with as they reflect how they believe life works and are set very deeply inside. Wherever one truly finds himself in this crazy thing we call life and living PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY has a value system that backs it up. And…it was PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY set in place by a deep-seated reason why it is there. If we want the best for others than we will undoubtedly think good thoughts. If we don’t want what is best for others and treat them negatively, we will probably find that the way we have been treating others is the way we ’’are and will be’’ treated - negatively. It will be this way until…we make a positive change in our values…to remedy the situation. That’s why it pays well to treat others kindly or find out why we don‘t. Check your values! This could be the most important thing that you have ever done. Be Well.

(You will find positive values take root much easier than anything negative...if we tend to be positive)

---If you find you have a strong prejudice based on something beyond the annoyances of behaviors, than maybe you should talk to someone to help you delve more deeply into it.

The NURSING ASSISTANT!

WHAT IS MEANT -

''We ALL Love One Another; We're Just Working Out The Details''

---What do I mean when I say this? As a matter of fact I tell folks that this is my personal philosophy. It seems that it isn't as obvious to others as I thought.

---We must break it down into two parts. We ALL love one another. That in itself seems ludicrous. I can give a list of people that I don't love...or even like very much. People go from there usually giving me a quick list of different world leaders who were the cause of much suffering, death + destruction. How can I possibly love them. They can be outraged at me for even suggesting that.

---I have to break it down a bit further. I believe that LOVE exists whether we feel it or not. Whether anyone feels it or not. LOVE is always present...it is just that most folks don't know how to access it. The problem that I see is this; folks for the most part are waiting to be loved and are not loving. They may think that they are, but self-concern + saving face runs the show. They are, usually, busy TRYING to get their needs + preferences met. Because of this backwards approach (if you will,) folks end up waiting to be loved instead of being loving. I see this as being the real problem...but, that is, then, hence its solution.

---We must be loving for this process to work. If we wait around to be loved and are NOT being loving – we then have the process backwards. If we wait to feel love first, we may just wait forever (a long, long time.) You will wait as long as it takes for you to learn that it works the other way.

---''To FEEL LOVE, YOU MUST BE LOVING.'' The other way doesn't work. It is like waiting to be perfect before you act. It is one thing to get your act together, but waiting to be perfect FIRST will not work. Too many semantics and interpretations to concern yourself with before you can declare that that has indeed happened AND you are now perfect. (Ask your mother, wife or sister to weigh-in on the subject...if you are getting too full of yourself.) Husbands, in general, if smart...won't answer that or just will not truthfully know what you're talking about.

---The second half of that statement - working out the details...come into play in the fact that many, many have still got it backwards and complain so much and so loudly and wonder why it doesn't work. Some folks have a lot invested in its being the other (wrong) way AND they belligerently insist that it does indeed work the other (wrong) way...even when they may NOT realize what it is that they are really doing.

---Folks go to war over the fact that they have this backwards...instead of simply realizing that they must love first. Many relationships go sour, because of faulty logic. A lot of time is spent on trying to see eye-to-eye before love is even considered. That, once again is CONDITIONAL LOVE and NOT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. Instead of being loving...you love only those that see things as you do. The DETAILS are KILLING US in this way.
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Love is a FACT...NOT JUST A FEELING. Act accordingly. Be Well.

The saying now changes to:

''We ALL Love One Another; we are simply + gently working out the details''

PLEASURE, PAIN, FEAR

Pleasure, Pain, Fear

  
 ---When I was in my twenties, I used to read a lot of J. Krishnamurti. He would speak of FEAR very much. That is because he saw fear as being the true opposite to LOVE. NOT HATE...but, FEAR. He said that people would experience hatred, because they had some kind of fear for whatever it may be that they hated...AND, it was driving the boat. He, also, believed, as many did, that FEAR dissipated when one understood whatever it was that caused the FEAR. He thought once fear was understood you were well on your way to ''getting'' what life + living were ALL about.
---He spoke of the fact that man tended to seek pleasure and avoid pain...AND that dynamic INCREASES FEAR. Pleasure has an elusive quality to it and is hardly ever the same twice in a row. One seeking pleasure sets himself to easily become addicted to whatever he uses to avoid pain. He becomes desperate in his pursuit of pleasure and avoidance and gets further from facing the original pain. He finds himself on the other side of it, feeling pain, NOW...from those very things that once brought pleasure.

---What is this PAIN that he keeps avoiding? It masks itself and shows it is still there...in any number of ways. BUT...it can be traced as the source of all pain. It is the pain of facing oneself. There are many books that address this – some good, some bad. Why it is so painful is because of the embarrassment involved. TOUGHNESS INCREASES WHEN WE FACE OUR EMBARRASSMENTS.

---To embark on this field we have to admit (and, maybe for the first time) that we are not perfect. I'm not speaking of some religious thing where we are really all perfect...I'm talking about facing the fact that maybe our behavior has ALWAYS NOT been perfect and we caused a lot of mayhem in our quest to find ourselves. We are becoming more tolerant in our judgments (at least some of us) than we had been. BUT...facing ourselves and becoming comfortable with our past is a process that gets better with time.

---It will come down to the ability to NOT save face. We have a very difficult time telling the truth in this area. As I have said before, ''we ALL hate to look bad, even if it is only to our own self.'' Be Well.

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Dr. LISSA RANKIN - SELF-HEALING!

---I am a supporter of the work of Dr. Lissa Rankin. This short YOUTUBE (a little over a minute) may lead you to her other YOUTUBEs...again, at the very least.

The GIFT of IMPERFECTION - Dr. BRENE BROWN

SEE YOURSELF MORE CLEARLY

DO YOU SEE THE REAL YOU?

---On HALLOWEEN morning I got to talking with one of the nurses. I asked why she didn't wear a costume? Her answer was that it takes her TOO long to go through all that. We have always had a pretty good rapport...so I said, ''I can probably shed some light on why it takes you so long.''

---She looked at me with a look that seemed to want to hear more of what I had to say. I said, ''it gets to where you're so busy trying to apply it so perfectly that it becomes a real chore to do. You want it to be so perfect that when folks judge you for wearing it, it actually defies judgment (and...you know of the hurtful judgment, because, it has quietly helped you come undone in the past.'') Then I said, ''that's very common.'' Many, many people suffer from self-consciousness.

---It is saving face and we are never being spontaneous enough to do what we really want. We are afraid to appear wrong and foolish...and struggle to withstand the judgment of others. We may be exposed and found out where others see/know how wrong we actually may be. (And, their response will reveal that...NO matter how silent or loud it is.) WE HATE TO APPEAR WRONG! We have intertwined being even a little wrong with our TOTAL self worth - somehow.

---Until we loosen up and realize that it is alright to be wrong,   sometimes, and to be ourselves, always...we ALL seem to go through this struggle – TO FIND OURSELVES or TO BE OURSELVES. It really is okay to be silly and to be wrong...but, we protect these very diligently. But...if the truth be told at those times that our defenses aren't as strong as usual... we, probably, liked it. We may have really liked it. You may have had an experience near the one I describe, drugging and drinking...BUT, then have the drug and drink with which to deal. Don't take yourself so seriously AND you'll do yourselves a tremendous favor. Take it from one who has been there. There is quite a difference from NOT BEING YOURSELF and BEING YOURSELF.

---Our normal look is just one of the many that we could be wearing...at this very moment! Granted...it may be the one that best expresses who/what we are at the present time given our present abilities to know and withstand the pressures of the society in which we live. In this light...again, are we being and living at our best? Are we satisfied? Are we happy? Are we living up to our own potential? Remember that if we still blame others for our circumstance...it shows us that we have more learning and growing to do. Be Well!

REMEMBER: This is a draft and may be futzed with a bit.

BBC-News Video - ''Pretty much a miracle''

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-northern-ireland-15114479
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---For anyone who hasn't seen the video. Mark M., is no longer at the hospital. Congratulations to ALL who were part of his rehabilitation.
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---Definitely a MUST SEE video. Good Luck to you...Mark (from the residents.)
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---Thanks to ALL in the HELPING profession for coming through for so many of us in our hour of need and for the days following. I am very glad that you receive back the help that you give. It confirms my belief that we are ALL in this, together - when I witness this kind of thing first-hand, everyday. For anyone that has ever HELPED anyone at anytime. Kudos.

I watched this again in May, 2015...so I know it is still there. There is a commercial at the beginning and very able to be watched in 2015.

Here is a posting from 4 years ago. It highlights Laguna Honda Hospital

BEING KIND - GOOD REASONS!

The PANE CLINIC

The PANE CLINIC

---This is a gimmicky new homophonic way to get a thought through. We are all very aware of the 'Pain Clinic,' I think. The Pain Clinic is a way that we who have a chronic type of pain, can learn to best manage/live with it. I must admit, I have never been referred there, but know many who have. I, also, know many who are on the staff.

---What I am going to suggest is NOT brand spanking new and even been touched upon by many of the things that I, myself, write. I call it the 'Pane Clinic.' The homophone – two words that are pronounced the same, but are essentially unrelated. The 'PANE CLINIC,' basically, makes many of the same claims as the 'Pain Clinic,' but addresses things from a different perspective.

---At the 'Pane Clinic' we attempt to clear up the vision and visibility of the client involved. This runs on the belief that pain is not organic in nature and is able to be uprooted with the proper vision in its place. (There are many people who have touched upon this, and many who disagree...through a shortsightedness) I, also, believe that this vision is already contained within each person. Through a proper clearing away of all that is not that...we then have the chi, the viriditas**, the god force or whatever you want to call it, left. That does the healing.

---Here we have the truth that sets you free meeting Einstein's equation of E=MC2. At that point where matter changes to energy or the physical to spirit we have the vision getting clearer and/or the 'pane being cleaner' than it once was. This new visibility/vision ALLOWs* the healing. One now sees with new eyes. This dynamic is already very well known in different disciplines around the world. The major problem is that there are many beings who still don't (won't) understand its logic. They aren't comfortable with something so simple. It is based on love, compassion and kindness. Wellness is still the objective. It is still about being positive. Think on this for awhile. I think that it will be understood, eventually. Fear is still the biggest obstacle in the understanding. Be Well.

[As always...this is a draft and may be futzed with at anytime by the author.]

*The word ALLOWs is used instead of the word 'is'

**Spelling of 'viriditas'

The PEACE PROCESS gif

AUTHENTIC APPRECIATION

---I was watching CNN the other day when something caught my eye. There was a village in Africa where the house had running water ''for the first time.'' The joy on the faces, young an old alike, was incredible. They were ALL beaming at the sight of the water coming into the house on-demand by simply pumping the well.

.---Now...no longer would the younguns' have to arise early to go to the river and get the daily supply of the H2O for the household. Matt Damon, the actor, was part of the project. That is, probably, why it got as much airtime as it did.

---I was thinking of how easy it is to take things for granted. When was the last time you found yourself marveling at the wonders of water? It has been over sixty years, myself. I have placed a lot of things in that category...if NOT everything. They speak of food, clothing and shelter to be what sustains life. But...all that would be in moderation.

---When I saw the authentic look of appreciation on the faces of the people in the village who had running water...I realized that I haven't seen that look in awhile. But, I have seen it. I've seen it in and out of the hospital. It usually happens when someone has been given something or has access to something that profoundly touches them. It is mostly something that they have deemed as important.

---If we have easy access to everything we find that it doesn't work any better than NO ACCESS to ANYTHING. We can see the sense that ''waste not...want not'' can make. Fear causes us to stockpile things to prepare for imagined future disasters. We have to realize that negativity projected at those times causes the very disasters that we are afraid of. Convenience is backfiring all around us. We realize that health is jeopardized if there is little movement in our lives. Frenetic worry is NOT the answer.

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED OVER TWO YEARS AGO.

PROACTIVELY KIND!

KINDNESS CREATES AN 'US' SPACE

Kindness: CREATES an 'us' space,

NOT a 'you vs. me' space

---We will start with the premise that we ALL know about kindness. We have probably experienced that by being in the vicinity where ''kind'' was happening. Whether you believe that folks are kind because it is their nature or kindness is a way folks manipulate one another to get their own needs met, we all have a concept of what kindness is.

---If we are kind and act kindly things tend to be more hassle-free. It seems to work better than those times we begin by demanding and acting selfishly. When we are in a situation only concerned with getting our own needs met and have NO concern for what others may be doing...we act opposite to being kind. The more civil we act tends to be a better thing for society in general. You catch more flies with honey.

 

---So...this is pretty fundamental and we all seem to be aware of it. At onetime in my life we seemed to approach each other with this abandon, but we now carry a wariness and suspicion when we move amongst each other. The old joke has come to past – ''Even if you're NOT paranoid; it doesn't mean you're NOT being followed.''

---It seems we have to get back to an 'us' space. When we see life as a 'me vs. them' proposition, then that is what we will see AND that's when our heartaches begin. It is up to us (you and I) to make this an 'us' space, again. The only thing that will (turn folks back around) is NOT to add to the suspicion that folks already have. If you are kindly and true to this belief, than you will convey that. The quote by Gandhi was right on: be the change that you wish to see in the world. We have to start by being more proactively kind. Be Well.

KINDNESS IS A BRIDGE FROM A 'ME vs THEM' SPACE TO AN 'US' SPACE!

MISS COLORADO - ''Just a Nurse!''

What a Great Kick-off To The ''Quality of Life - Performance Improvement Team's'' KINDNESS CAMPAIGN -

The NICENESS NETWORK

Dr. BJ Miller - TEDtalk

---A very inspiring talk by Dr. BJ Miller. He is the head of the Zen Hospice project at Laguna Honda Hospital in San Francisco. Do yourself a favor and listen to what Dr. Miller has to say. Kudos to all!

Burt Mann Memorial

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---Many of us went to Burt Mann's memorial service, yesterday, July 29, 2012. He passed on a week ago. Burt was a great guy. His honesty was unprecedented. He made his mark at Laguna Honda and if his memorial service is any indication...you can see that he affected many, many folks in a way that will last awhile.

---There is much that I could write about Burt...but, to sum it up very neatly (which wasn't exactly Burt's style.) Everyone loved Burt and Burt loved everyone. The impact that Burt had was great. Knowing Burt was a reason to be thankful.

I republished this one. It is for those who remember Burt. He sure was a great guy.

An IDEAL (Draft) Patient/Care Partner (CLOSER)

KINDNESS - Patients/Staff

 

REMEMBER: Kindness Begins With YOU, No Matter Who YOU Are!

The DOCTOR 1991 (Complete Movie) - William Hurt

---I was fortunate to find this movie on YouTube. A movie that everyone in the helping profession should see. Read more below. Watch, if you care to, while it's agreement is still current.  

A LESSON FOR DR. VICTORIA SWEET

A LESSON FOR

DR. VICTORIA SWEET

and US ALL

---I'd like to speak about something that Dr. Sweet mentions in her book, ''God's Hotel.'' On page 29 in one of the versions of the book she speaks of talking to a Miss Tod. Miss Tod had brain cancer that was still growing behind her right eye. The eye had been removed and her eyelid was sewn shut. Dr. Sweet mentions that she was hard to look at.

---Having gotten used to the physical appearance of Miss Tod, and after exchanging pleasantries...Dr. Sweet looked at Miss Tod and asked if there was anything that she could do for her?

She expected euthanasia, some sort of miracle cure, stronger pain medication or even a second opinion. With all the poise and equanimity Miss Tod asked if there was something Dr. Sweet could do about her food being so bland and a pair of eyeglasses. Dr. Sweet mentions being floored by the response. She helped her with those things. Miss Tod changed wards and lived another 18 months.

---What Dr. Sweet learned that day was priceless from my perspective. From Miss Tod's attitude she learned that ''somehow she accepted her fate, and it was the small things, the little daily things, that were important to her.'' Dr. Sweet goes on to speak of bravery at the core.

--She then mentioned something that floored me. Admitting that many young doctors are very healthy, curious, hardworking, etc. What do they know of misfortune? And, even when there is no cancer to deal with, the patient still has his needs and preferences. Reread the section about Miss Tod if you've forgotten the story. As I said it's page 29 in my book and lasts about two pages. It is a good lesson for all of us. Be Well.

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The Doctor - Movie Trailer 1991

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---This movie was suggested to me by someone in the social services department. I couldn't find the movie trailer without subtitles. It is about a doctor who was a brilliant surgeon that lacked skills in the human relationship/bedside manner dept., that is so very important to the process. The callous surgeon played by William Hurt develops a tumor and meets many doctors equally as cold and aloof as he was. The surgeon is now victimized by same attitudes and callous behaviors that were much like his own. He learns a valuable lesson through all this AND...you have to watch the movie for more! WORTH VIEWING!

COMPLETE MOVIE ABOVE!

The TASK + The TLC

The TASK and The TLC

---We will begin by being sure our definitions are on the same page. We can easily see what is meant by TASK. TLC is the Tender Loving Care that one uses in the situation. This can be or is not being incorporated into the TASK. I hope we are clear on the three conditions I am speaking of. 1] TASK alone (without TLC), 2] TLC alone (without TASK) and 3] The ideal state - the TASK + the TLC, together.

---Next, we can hang these conditions on our Care Partners. Our Care Partners are the people who help us in the moment we are in. The Care Partner is in someway communicating some degree of TASK + TLC. He is communicating some combination of TASK + TLC to the patient.

---The TASKs alone are the easier of the two, to measure. They are very quantitative. If you want something done and someone does it, you can say that the TASK is complete.

---A more difficult measurement is the TLC involved. We will use words like compassion, kindness and niceness to describe these states. We can have a needy care partner getting signs to back off or needy patient not getting much compassion from his Care Partner.

---An ideal here would be one of the correct amount of compassion, kindness and/or niceness passing between the Care Partner and Patient. It is based on what makes the situation run at the optimum. It is very important to know each other’s boundaries.

---Where does one see himself in these different conditions with those he/she deals with? Is the situation working or not? By adjusting the amount of TASK + TLC on either the Care Partner or Patient…is it possible to make the relationship better? You may realize by now that these measurements can easily translate to your everyday relationships, also. Be Well.

SAME EMOTIONs;DIFFERENT REASONs

STONE SOUP

ART WITH ELDERs! - AWESOME

SAME EMOTIONs;DIFFERENT REASONs

We All Have The Same Emotions -

Just Over Different Things

 

 

 ---Don’t we all share the same emotions? You become happy, sad, enthusiastic, contented, feel inferior, feel superior, love, hate, etc. Well…guess what? So do I. And so does everyone else. We all have these wants and needs in our arsenals and can draw upon any of them, at a moment’s notice. We have different things or events and experiences in our lives that push our buttons, but we react to things, differently, from the same list of emotions.

---This example should make this clear. A bunch of us are hungry - experiencing the same emotions - but we have different food items that will satisfy us. Bob may want pizza while Jim wants steak. Mary may want eggplant while Sue wants a salad.

---We can see from the example that though they are all hungry, different things push their buttons. Of course, there are times when you intersect with someone. Sometimes there is someone you intersect with on a regular basis and some people that never darken your door. Many relationships are based on this dynamic.

---Whether you be staff, resident or butcher, baker or candlestick maker…we are much the same with a set of different wants and preferences that makes us all a little different. This is why we can be the same…but, different, at the same time. Take Care.

AFFIRMATION...

''AFFIRMATION''

 ---When we ''AFFIRM'' something, we are saying it is alright, it is okay. When we affirm someone we are also saying that the person is alright or okay. When we affirm someone and they feel it, we are actually telling them or even giving that person ''Permission'' to take his ''Next'' step.

---It is so easy to stagnate, to stay where we are without much growth in our lives. We go through the motions of living, but don't feel very ''Alive.'' Sometimes we need help in taking that next step. Sometimes we are not even sure there is a next step to take.

---There is a light at the end of every tunnel, even if at present we can't see it. As Elizabeth Kubler-Ross is accreditted for- There are 5 stages we ALL go through on the way to Accepting something. They are 1] DENIAL  2] ANGER  3] BARGAINING  4] DESPAIR and  5] ACCEPTANCE. She came upon these phases while searching for those things we have in-common when we grieve. These are the stages that bring the ''Light'' into focus. 

 

                                                            

---We ''Stagnate'' as we move along these lines. Sometimes we Deny so furtively, that we just stay ''Shallow.'' Sometimes we are just Angry, not even knowing what we are so pissed-off about, but just figure we are '''Angry'' people. In the Bargaining phase, we find ourselves even making deals, saying things like ''If you'll only get me through this, I'll do...[and it is usually something that we have been letting ''slide'' for awhile.]

---Despair is the last ugly step before Acceptance. It is very natural to not like this stage. We feel ''  Helpless.'' We hate to feel this way. In Despair we know there is nothing we can do about our situation. We handle this the best we can. We suffer to the extent we are attached to a certain outcome. We have to let go of ALL this. We have to learn to ''Trust.'' We grieve for those parts of ''Ourselves'' that are ''Lost'' so as to make ourselves Whole again. We can than see that ''Light'' of Acceptance that has been alluding us all this time. The best way ''around'' something is to go through it.

---By ''Affirming'' each other, we allow the person to take that next step. We like to know that it is really okay to STAND where we STAND, and Affirmation brings ''OKAYNESS'' to the table. We sometimes get very scattered and are pulled in many different directions at once. Even at this spot, if we feel affimed, it gives us a place from which to take our next step. When We Are Ready. Affirm each other along the lines of the five stages above, giving others the courage to not ''Stagnate'' too long at any one spot, and watch him or her ''Walk'' into the ''Light'' of ''Acceptance or Self-Acceptance.''  Be Well.

 

 

WHY IS BREAKING UP SO HARD TO DO?

Art With Elders - Eldergivers

Mark Campbell (Click)
DIRECTOR - Art With Elders

ART WITH ELDERs - Creative Spark Within!

Of MICE and MEN??

10 WAYS TO MAKE PEOPLE FEEL BETTER:

10 WAYS TO MAKE FOLKS FEEL GOOD

1. Say Hi and use people's name. Use a nickname if it will work.
2. Ask someone to teach you something.
3. Compliment someone. Even if you don't like someone too much there must be something you can say.
4. Listen and repeat back a little what they say. It shows you are listening. We are quick to give our opinion instead of just listening to what a person may say. Learn NOT immediately jump in with your opinion. Just listen.
5. Understand what someone says. Put yourself in their position. Learn to really commiserate. People like it when someone 'gets' them.
6. Sometime a smile puts someone more at ease.
7. Remember their spouses name or hobby that they may have. It makes people feel special.
8. Help people if they need it.
9. Greet people like you are really glad to see them.
10. Make an effort to redirect negative energy to positive.

The VOICE (promo) - NEWSLETTER LHH

 

 

Letting Things That Bother You Be Your Motivation!

Letting Things That Bother You

Be Your Motivation

 

---It's seems simple if you look at it. List all of the comments folks have made about you...that bother you in life. Take a good look at the list and being truthful in your response...discover exactly why you are/were bothered by the comment. If we find ourselves reacting to something, there is a good chance that it contains some element of truth...somewhere.

---We can see patterns emerge and find out much about ourselves through this process. If we are very thorough in our self-investigation, there is a good chance we can reveal our primary motivations. We can see why we are the way we are and do the things we do. If we remain honest in this...much about ourselves becomes pretty obvious.

---Take a good look at the source, also. If it is a boss, sibling, friend, enemy, pastor, student, etc. It may make a difference. But...give them the benefit of the doubt. It is very important to note: you are NOT going to do ANYTHING to the person who made the comment. It is the comment that holds a truth about you AND because...after-all you are the one who reacted to it. In essence, you owe a debt of gratitude to the source. In the final analysis...he/she probably helped reveal part of yourself you were unaware of. In reality, that is pretty good.

---Your next step would follow by, actually, seeing if what is/was said applies in any way. If you're truthful, again - through this, the most important part of this is – if there is something that you do that needs fixing, FIX IT. Sounds simple enough. Try it, you may like it. You confront nobody...just be honest with yourself. Take Care.