WHERE DID THE SATISFACTION GO?

Where Did Satisfaction Go?

 

 

---The old adage says that there is NOTHING more consistent than change. Change is really the only thing that we can count on. Of course, we do hope that the changes that are happening are in the general direction that we our self is pointing.

---That will next bring up the point that spending all this time in flux cannot help but have us dealing with a certain amount of discomfort. And, since discomfort of some sort seems to be in the mix…now, more than ever, it makes sense that we be more accepting of some of that discomfort.

---It seems that the ‘’job’’ of Madison Avenue was to be sure that we are constantly seeking pleasure while avoiding pain and television seems to routinely punctuate that fact. People never seem to be satisfied…anymore. Technology moving as fast as it does, doesn’t leave folks with any joy for having an item before the next bigger and better version is available. The art of savoring seems to have gone by the wayside.

 

 

---It seems to me that we could ALL do a great favor to ourselves and learn to have (and enjoy) what we already have instead of continually projecting forward to the next big thing that may be looming on the horizon. When we learn to ENJOY things in the present moment we more easily STAY in the present moment. We do ourselves a great service by NOT always projecting away. Be Well.

 

 

REALIZATION THAT SHOULD HELP US STOP HATING!

What Realization Should Help Us Stop Hating?

 

---You can have one realization that stops you from disliking other people. It is the realization that keeps others off of any negative list we may have. Realization: You don’t hate or dislike the other person or people, but hate or dislike the behavior that is used.

---When you look into this a bit more deeply we find that it generally the behavior or attitude of other people (or our own) that causes ALL the problems. That’s what we find ourselves reacting to.

---To go a step further into this cave…we find that the values one has, directs what attitudes + behaviors the person uses. If the values change, than usually the attitudes + behaviors change.

---Attitudes + behaviors can be like coats folks put-on or take-off. If someone is doing something we don’t particularly like or saying something we find irritating they are probably wearing a garment from ‘’His Own Values Store’’ that we don’t like. The opposite is true if we find we like something.

---If we want to make changes in our attitudes and behaviors - we have to make changes in the values to insure any lasting changes are made. Peoples values are difficult to mess with as they reflect how they believe life works and are set very deeply inside. Wherever one truly finds himself in this crazy thing we call life and living PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY has a value system that backs it up. And…it was PROBABLY/UNDOUBTEDLY set in place by a deep-seated reason why it is there. If we want the best for others than we will undoubtedly think good thoughts. If we don’t want what is best for others and treat them negatively, we will probably find that the way we have been treating others is the way we ’’are and will be’’ treated - negatively. It will be this way until…we make a positive change in our values…to remedy the situation. That’s why it pays well to treat others kindly or find out why we don‘t. Check your values! This could be the most important thing that you have ever done. Be Well.

(You will find positive values take root much easier than anything negative...if you tend to be positive)

Zig Ziglar - Attitude Makes All The Difference

---You may have heard of Zig Ziglar at one time or other in your life. He has lots of material. Enjoy!

The GENTLE SMILE by Diane Berke

The GENTLE SMILE

Practicing ONENESS in DAILY LIFE

By Diane Berke

I accept myself completely.
I accept my strengths and my weaknesses,
my gifts and my shortcomings,
my good points and my faults,
I accept myself completely as a human being.

I accept that I am here to learn and grow,
and I accept that I am learning and growing.
I accept the personality I've developed,
and I accept the power to heal and change.
I accept myself without condition or reservation.
I accept that the core of my being is goodness
and that my essence is love,
and I accept that I sometimes forget that.
I accept myself completely, and in this acceptance
I find a ever - deepening inner strength.
From this place of strength, I accept my life fully
and I open to the lessons it offers me today.

I accept that within my mind are both fear and love,
and I accept my power to choose which
I will experience as real.
I recognize that I experience only the results
of my own choices.
I accept the times that I choose fear
as part of my learning and healing process,
and I accept that I have the potential and power
in any moment to choose love instead.
I accept mistakes as part of growth,
so I am always willing to forgive myself
and give myself another chance.

I accept that my life is the expression of my thought,
and I commit myself to aligning my thoughts
more and more each day with the Thought of Love.
I accept that I am an expression of this Love,
Love's hands and voice and heart on earth.
I accept my own life as a blessing and a gift.
My heart is open to receive, and I am deeply grateful.
May I always share the gifts that I receive
fully, freely,, and with joy.

Amen.

Dr. Victoria Sweet TEDtalk

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---A very good example of how the life-force, the viriditas as Hildegarde of Bingen called it, the chi, the god-force, the cosmic-force, etc.,...will work in the body as it did for Terry Becker. All we must do is clear away those things that get in the way of this happening. We ALL have this within. Staff, resident, volunteer, butcher, baker and candlestick maker. From puppet, pauper, pawn and king. All of us. This means YOU. This means ME. Approach your friends with this kind of knowledge. Approach those in your charge if you are a care partner of any sort. Approach yourself with this knowledge. It has been well-documented throughout the ages. Dr. Sweet gives a beautiful example. We must clear away those obstructions (negatives) - whether ''mind, body and/or spirit.'' Kudos.

Originally Posted - June, 2013

The Hidden Power of Smiling - Ron Gutman

 

---This TEDtalk speaks of the power that a smile has. Personally, when I had the stroke in 2002...the muscles that go into action when one smiles were deadened. For all-intents-and-purposes I cannot smile. When someone wants me to smile for the camera, I cannot. Folks immediately think that they catch me as that statement is so absurd to me that I laugh. That is the key for me. I can laugh...but, can't smile. I can feel joy but really can't facially express it. Luckily, the world doesn't depend on my having that ability when it is deciding to spin or not. BUT...if you see me making strange faces as I ride around in my wheelchair...it's just my version of a smile. The Spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.''

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---All that being said, this is a great TEDtalk (less than 8 mins.) It left me smiling (SORT OF!)

HEAD BUTLER - Dr. Victoria Sweet

http://www.headbutler.com/reviews/gods-hotel-doctor-hospital-and-pilgrimage-heart-medicine/ - (Click)

---Some of you may have seen this, but it was new to me. A very positive article from the Head Butler

 

Quote from Head-Butler - ''The Bad Boys + Bad Girls of LHH...if treated with dignity either sweetened their days or, on occasion, turned their lives around.''

NURSING HOME ETIQUETTE - What the Professionals Say?

Professional Etiquette for Nursing Homes (Click)

---I have been delving into what is being said about Nursing Home Etiquette from other perspectives. This site seems to cover a lot of different topics.