Wednesday, January 29, 2014

MAYBE...CHANGE YOUR FOCUS!


Maybe: A Focus Change


 ---I have a friend who I think is representative of many people…nowadays. He is very focused on what is wrong with most things and how corrupt things things can tend to be. Every silver lining has an even darker cloud in its wake.

---He allows this focus to govern his mood and he becomes a virtual victim to this example of corruption that this article or story seems to depict. He doesn’t see any end to this or any light at the end of this tunnel. Every story seems to be another example of ‘man’s inhumanity to man.’

---This seems to be the way an ‘eye-for-eye’ turns out. If we do that, then our fate is well-documented. ‘’Screw over the other guy BEFORE he screws over you‘’…seems the mindset that drives this engine. You find yourself with a suspicious mindset that just waits for a mistake to be made that justifies this way of thinking. Believe me, This is not the only way to think.

---The answer to this may NOT be what you want to hear…BUT, it is very simple in thought and deed. We have to begin with ourselves AND be sure we are not causing others to be victims of how we believe. We have to let folks think for themselves. We have be true to what we believe and how we see things...and act accordingly. We have to be sure that our behavior is, also, not part of the problem.

---’’We have to treat one another like we want to be treated.’’ (The Golden Rule.) ‘’To cheer ourselves up, we cheer someone else up.’’ (Mark Twain.) There are many others that fit into here.
 

---When one puts the well-being of the other guy, FIRST, and thinks with the mindset of when the team benefits I benefit, also - even if I happen to bat 'clean-up.'

---When you find yourself competing + comparing yourself to others, you can bet there is something wrong somewhere. We are ALL in this together. Rising at the expense of another is not going to get you far. Rising up as a result of the whole team truly rising…is much, more what it is about. Be Well.

Sunday, January 26, 2014

Sarah on The Eden Alternative



---After watching this video, can you say that ''unconditional love'' is not worth it?

Friday, January 17, 2014

Monday, January 13, 2014

LIFE is LIKE a CUP of COFFEE

 
---We ALL represent coffee cups of different levels of elegance...whether we be on staff, resident/patient or volunteer.
We are truly on the same team!

Sunday, January 5, 2014

TRUST!


TRUST

''Probably has trust issues...NOW''

---Trust is a very important part of ANY relationship. If we do trust the person we’re interacting with, it is easy to move on from there. BUT…if there are trust issues…one will always be ON GUARD to some extent…when dealing with the one he/she doesn’t trust.

---I recently saw a TV show about a dog who was abused and then abandoned by his owner. The dog was a about 20 lbs (NOT REALLY BIG,) who lived on the city street’s and back alley’s and scavenged for food. The dog would spend much of his time in the shadows NOT interacting with anyone. This was his defense mechanism. The dog didn’t trust TOO much of anyone or anything.


---To rehabilitate this animal and to teach him to heel, to sit, lay down, etc., the trainer realized that the first step was to gain the dog’s trust.

---He made a safe bedding area and placed it where the dog would naturally go to in the house to feel safe. Safety and security are places sought out by most of us who have trust as a priority. (It is something we ALL have…just to different degrees. The ideal is to be at ‘’home with yourself’’ and have that secure feeling all or most of the time.)


---The trainer would be sure that only positive things would happen in that bed area. There were treats, his favorite toy and (importantly) the dog was always treated with positive regard while there.

---With love and guidance…the trainer says he was able to re-establish trust with the dog. The trainer eventually branched out…meaning the dog was introduced to more and more social settings. They went for walks to dog parks letting the dog set the pace while keeping a close watch on what the dog could + couldn’t handle.


---The dog eventually was socialized enough where he could live amongst people. A good home and a solid family made a very good match for dog and family…alike. Re-establishing trust is very important and an essential cornerstone for any relationship…especially when trust has been abused. Folks tend to tighten-up and won’t let anyone penetrate this hardened veneer if it isn’t dealt with. Animals (and people) have to really know that it’s okay to be ‘’who they are’’ in settings they are in. Be Well.